Hey, my name is Christine and I am 16 years old. My friends are family are a huge part of my life. I love to dance, sing and act. I also play soccer, lacrosse and football with my neighbors. Feel free to e-mail me at ChristineKayadvice4you@yahoo.com or IM me at ckayadvice4you on AIM.
E-mail: christinekayadvice4you@yahoo.com
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Age: 16
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Sometimes I think that people are afraid to tell me how they really feel on a lot of issues. Not only am I very sensitive but I'm aware that I'm a very controlling person. I also have very high 'standards' for my friends. So I'm afraid that they don't feel like they can tell me everything, because I will judge them or I will get angry. Sometimes I even think that my friends are only my friends because theyre scared of me, and they think that having me as a friend is a lot better than having me as an enemy.
How do I tell them that I don't plan to change who I am, but I want them to be honest with me without fear of me judging them or hating them? (link)
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Dear Scared,
You know, what you just wrote on this form is the perfect thing to say to your friends? Just tell them that you don't want to change to suit their wants or needs for a friend, say that you want them to be honest with you without fear. Maybe you should also let down a bit, do you ever come off as intimidating to yourself? Try and put yourself in their shoes, if you were them and had you as a friend would you feel the same way? Your standards may be a bit high so lower them a bit... you shouldn't really have too many standards besides someone who is loyal, honest and you have a good time with., Hope I helped someone!
Love to you from me, Christine
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I've had an eating disorder for lets say longer than a year. (anorexia) I finally got over it this summer. I'm worried about school though and how my friends will react because i wasn't eating lunch all last year. Will they make a big deal out of it and will i end up starting it ALL OVER AGAIN????? I RATE HIGH (link)
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I hope this helped. I can't say firsthand that I know how you feel but I'll do my best!
I used to not eat lunch at school just for no reason. I'm naturally skinny and people used to always call me anorexic [my friends] but they were always kidding!
Now, they're your friends and they should back you up any which way you decide to flow, you know what I'm saying? They shouldn't treat you like your uncool or a loser just because you had an eating disorder. People learn over time to forget the past and try to make way for the future. But, if they start to not talk to you or something then don't be friends with them because it's not worth the pain. Last, sweetie, if you believe that you've completely stopped and trust that you can prevent this from happening again... with the encouragement of a friends and family you won't start again! I believe in you!
Love to you,
Christine
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