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Well, my best friend died exactly a year ago as of yesterday. I'm not sure if many of you are familiar with my question I posted last year about her death, but so you can hear the whole story here's the link: http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=248637
I've had a hard time dealing with her death, mentally and physically and I've been really depressed. I still blame myself for her death every day because I still feel that if I were there it wouldn't have happened.
I really need help coping with it... I've tried to keep myself busy with fencing, my boyfriend, my friends and schoolwork.. But nothing really seems to keep my mind fully off of what happened.
This past week, when her anniversary came up was when I really started to get depressed. I've gone to therapy because of her death and also because of other problems and my therapist keeps telling me that it wasn't my fault and that I couldn't have prevented it from happening. But if you really think about it, I COULD saved her. She kept begging me to go to the party with her but I said no because I wanted to be with my boyfriend. I think that if I wasn't being so selfish in wanting to spend so much time with my boyfriend, then I WOULD have gone to the party. My ex boyfriend WOULDN'T have slipped X in her drink he WOULDN'T have raped her and she WOULDN'T be dead.
I talk to her family almost every day and they always tell me that it's not my fault... But I still feel like it is.
How can I stop feeling like this is my fault? And how can I finally get closure on her death? (link)
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I realize you feel like its your fault but its not, you kept on telling her not to drink and not to go to parties. Your ex would have stil slipped ecstasy in her drink, and he probably would have done it to yours too, but you didnt go. Dont blame yourself, ive blamed mi self for mi dads death and its just not something you should do. You have tried everything to stop her from drinking but she just wouldnt listen. Its not your fault you protected her while you could and you saved her before she ended up dieing, by telling her not to drink you were trying to save her life so you did what you should have, if you need to talk, just e-mail me, im sooo sorry for what has happened to you and im willing to talk whenever you need someone to talk too so e-mail me: boxer_lover2389@yahoo.com i really do hope i helped
XoKaraXo
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All right.....My friend went out with this guy for like 2-3 months and he broke up with her and she was not ready for it and she was heart broken!! Now she still wants to go out with him! And that is all she ever talks about!! She wont stop so what i am basically asking is...What is some advice i can give her to stop talking about the guy!!?? (link)
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thats sad, but since he broke up with her then i think she should try to forget about this guy. If hse goes back out with ihm the nshe might just get her heart broken again and it will be a lot worse b.c they iwll have been gone out twice now. He will sooner or later realize what he is missing when he dumped her and he will eventually feel really bad about dumping her and making her feel very badly, well i hope i helped, if not ask me another question
XoKaraXo
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ok im going to make this quesiton in short form cause if i didnt it would go on forever. as i get older i realize friends should be just a lil more for joking around or for sharin inside jokes or saving seats on the bus 4... should a friend be someone that you have a shoulder to cry on when ur depressed or u just broke up.. and theyll help you sincerely? cause when i try this with my so called "best friends, sarah and alyssa" they like are you ok jackie and im like no.. and they are like making awkward faces and like ok. i just want to know if ill ever get a special friend! im still young (link)
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A friend should be there for u no matter what is going on in your life, even a best friend, my bestfriends, "manda and katie" are always there even its about sumthin stupid. If your friends arent there for you through anything, there must be reason why, so just ask them if they're ok or if they want to talk, well i hope i helped
xKarax
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