I am 18 years old and about to start college. I know that the world can be tough and that people can be cruel. I started this advice column to help all people. Age, sex or nationality does not matter to me. I just want to help people through their problems and be a shoulder to lean on when no one else is there. Whatever the topic is, I am certain I will have some great advice for you. Love, school, boys/girls, family, friends, work, PARENTS!!!, anything you want advice about. I have been through a lot and have had friends who have been through a lot. I know how things work. When you need a shoulder to cry on or hair advice for your big date tonight. I have it. All you need to do is ASKAMANDA!!!
E-mail: karamelkween@aol.com
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Location: kentucky
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Age: 18
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Me and one of my good friends of 5 years had a fight over something really stupid...but it turned into something huge! She ended up telling me that she was never my friend all these years...that she really just felt sorry for me. Even though when we friends we did alot of stuff together! When she said this I was extreamly hurt and cryed all night long. We have not talked in a few weeks and I miss her...I really want our friendship back especially since we are both entering highschool next year and we will often see each other around the neighborhood. How should I go about getting our friendship back? Please help! (link)
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Relax... maybe your friend just has a lot of stress built up right now. Give it a little time and things should return to normal. If you guys were as good of friends as you say, then she probably feels the same exact way. Just try to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
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ok... i like my guy friend **bob** :) he-he bob... ok ne ways, i know he has a physical attraction to me. how do u go about asking if he likes u all in all? can u give me some pointers?
thanx f/16 (link)
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just ask him bluntly if he is interested in you in any other way than "just friends" he will totally dig your bold moves. guys like chicks that aren't afraid to make the first move. so make the first move and snag the man. it's the little things that matter anyways. trust me. he will totally dig your confidence.
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Ok, I have this friend who isn't really nice. Whenever I invite her over she makes my room messy like she is Godzilla or something. Well whenever she invites me to come over she may invite one other person and then I am invisible the rest of the time that other friend of hers is over and she yells at me for nothing blames me on stuff to my parents even though she did whatever and everything is all about her. She is so selfish. What should I do? (link)
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That is not a friend. That is a selfish user. Does your friend have problems at home with her family? That could be one reason why she acts the way she does. Tell your friend that you do not appreciate the way she treats you or your belongings. If that doesn't work just tell her that she is going to treat you with the same respect that you treat her or that your friendship isn't worth saving. SOmetimes it is rough, but friends do not treat each other that way. before you decide to stop talking to her try to find out if she has family problems and then try to talk to her about it. Talking is the key to an everlasting friendship. Trust me, I know!!! I am here if you need to talk. Let me know what happens.
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I've always been really bad at finding things to say to people when they're upset. I mean, I know that usually what they need is just for their friend to be there for them, but I can't just stand there while they cry...for instance, one of my friends has been having a lot of problems lately: she fights with her mother often and recently her grandfather was taken to the hospital and they think he might have cancer. She gets upset often and i never know what to say or do! I feel horrible...i need some advice on what to say when she's going through hard times or crying on the phone or whatever because I always feel that I'll sound stupid and not good enough of a friend. when someone has cancer you can;'t tell the person 'oh, it'll be okay' because it won't! so please, if you have any advice i'd be glad to hear it (link)
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Don't worry if comforting things to say don't come naturally to you. All your friend needs to know and feel is that you are there for her. Just be there for her and give her a hug. Let her know that you care about what is going on in her life. Try to do things to take her mind off of everything that is going on around her. For instance, whenever she is fighting with her mom take her to the mall and just walk around. Give each other facials or makeovers. Paint each others toenails and fingernails. When you do things together it may make your friend feel a lot better. That is all the consoling your friend should need. If she knows that you are there she will find it in her heart to care more. Take her mind off of the pain. That is what being a good friend is all about. I will be here if you need to talk! Good luck!!!
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