Hello, Everyone. I'm here in the interest of giving non-biased, practical and creative advice. I have a special interest for relationships and people from all walks of life. I am considering a career in life coaching and hope I can be of help to those seeking a different perspective to their situations and issues. Please do not hesitate to contact me; no valid question will be dismissed or considered taboo.
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Anne Nonimous
Gender: Female
Location: Central Ohio
Occupation: Assistant Manager/Optician
Age: 24
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Member Since: September 4, 2005
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Alright, so I have this friend. Let's call her Diana. Whenever I tell Diana something that I am excited about she just brings me down. She'll tell me "Oh my god, no one cares" or "Does it really seem like I care?", stuff like that. Sometimes she will even hurt me physically also. She always flirts with all of the guys I used to like or even my boyfriend. Diana is very beautiful and she knows it. All of the guys adore here and such. Sometimes she can hurt my feelings so bad that I just want to cry. I really am not trying to be mean about this but how can I help get our friendship back on track? Sometimes when I tell her things I feel like she's jelous. Am I the one doing something wrong? Please help me, this is making me go through a lot of pain! Signed, Best Friend is hurting Me (link)
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Hi There. I don't mean to be blunt, but with friends like this who needs enemies? This girl is using you as a crutch to make herself feel better when in fact she is shallow and insecure. Your time is better spent finding people who are interested in who you are and care about you.
Good Luck!
Anne Nonimous
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I`m moving in a few months, and I`m very scared. I've lived in the same house for all my life, gone to schools right next to each other ( the elm. && middle schools are right next to each other ) progressed through each grade with the same familiar faces all around, and hung out doing nothing with my same group of best friends every weekend. I usually hate change, and I do now too. I love my life exactly the way it is, I find myself crying everynight `cause I don't want to move. I am very fortunate though, I`m moving only about 15 minutes away, but I am going to be at a new school / school district. I have one person I know at this new school, However my current school is so full they are redistricting a few neighborhoods to my new school. So I will know some people. I know yall probably think I`m a greedy wimp for being so sad even when I`ll have some friends, but you don't understand. It's been the same way all my life and I love it, I`m afraid of change, afraid of this move, afraid to leave what I love.
- how do I get over this fear ? How can I make the best of my move? How can I be sure my "friends" now won't forget about me when I move ? (link)
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The anxiety you are experiencing is natural for soeone being removed from their comfortable surroundings. But think of the excitement! You are going to meet an entire new group of friends, while still being able to retain your old ones. It's going to infinitely broaden your horizons. You know everyone in your school, and they all know you. This is an opportunity to re-invent or learn more about yourself. At the very least, if the experience is less than perfect, you are lucky enough to be close to your old friends. At least you're not moving out of state or cross-country. You just might go to your new school and find the grass actually IS greener on the other side.
Good Luck,
Anne Nonimous
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ok i am 18 and i live with my sister (well freind who is so close she is practically a sister) and her fiance. now the two of them are always having sex. like she and i will be playing cards and he asks her to come upstairs. well she comes back like a half hour to an hour later and i knew they were having sex cuz i could hear them. there is no way to drown them out b/c i dont have a cd player and we dont have a tv. and they are so loud i can hear them throughout hte whole house and many times outside the house. it is kinda disturbing, because they go at it multiple times a day, and not even give a shit that i am in the house and am forced to listen to them b/c i don;t have anything else to do. what am i supposed to do? what can i do to block them out or how can i tell her that them having sex is so annoying for me to hear them all the time. its almost as if she is rubbing it in my face that she can have sex b/c i swear they are loud on purpose. and i am a virgin so it is like she is saying "haha i can have sex and you arent". am i reading into this wrong? how can i confront her aobut it? what should i say? please help me out. i am so sick of hearing them having sex. (link)
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I think it depends on how you guys came about living together. I think it's one thing if you lived with this girl, and then the fiance moved in after the fact. Or did they live together first, and you started to stay with them?
If he in fact is the later addition to the house, then you have the right as a 'roomate' to lay down the law about having a little respect for you around the house.
However, if they lived together first and then you came to stay with them, you in fact are the guest. While it shows a lack of decorum the fact they go hot and heavy at all hours, you are staying within their personal space and might be better off just to leave the situation.
Talk to your friend about it. If she gets defensive about the situation then perhaps you've overstayed your welcome and are better off to find a place of your own or with someone else.
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Ok well last year there was this guy and everybody said he liked me. well i didnt think anything of it cause i wasnt to much into guys and i thought he was just a friend.
Well this year i like him alot and he doesnt like me and i think its cause i act different around him since i do like him.
How do i act like i did before i liked him? (link)
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It sounds like you're being "too available". Think about it in the opposite way: If a guy gushed over you all the time, and basically "sweated" you, it would be a turn-off because they would seem too eager. Guys like girls that are confident and savvy. So basically, don't pay attention to him for awhile. If he digs you, he'll miss your presence and approach you again.
Good Luck!
Anne Nonimous
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