Hi there. I am a 25 year old girl from Australia. Id like to offer advice to people who want to listen and I try very hard to make sure that the advice I give is informative and helpful. I am still young and have alot to learn about life and all its experiences but Id like to think that in my 25 years I have learned a thing or two that someone else hasnt learned and therefore can offer advice and help where I can.
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Location: Australia
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Age: 25
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I really didnt know what to put this under so im sorry if its in the wrong catagory.
k well iv wanted to ask this qurestion for a while now but have been too hesitant. im 19 female if you need to know.
iv really been questioning religon lately. both my parents have their own religon, which i wont mention what it is because thats not the point. they feel very strong about it and believe in it. They think i should believe in it to because they think its the only way i will go to heaven or have a happy life etc.
when i was 4 i was continuously molestered to some random bastard,iv always been blamed for everything that happens within the family like arguements etc,i had a tumor which was cancerous,my bf proposed to me but found out that he only did it so he could get the green card etc (very long story).
my parents say that things happen to me because im not a good person i do bad things then bad things will happen to me so they assume im a bad pperson.this has really made me question things like what do i really believe in?i dont think i believe in my parent's religon.how do i know if this is the right religon to follow?i mean theres soo many religons out there which one is right?im so confused because i guess i want to believe in soemthing and im scared that if i dont believe in my parents religon then ill go to hell or bad things will happen to me in this life.its made me really depressed and emotional.i cant talk to my parents about it because they will be so angry (they think their religon is the way to go)but what if its not?i mean i was 4 years old for crying out loud how would i know what God is or what hell is etc and i still got molestered over and over again.am i really being punished?i just dont know what to think,im afaraid and i dont want to die not believing in anything :( but i dont want religon to be forced down my throat either.
I dont exactly know what im asking but what ever your thinking i guess id like to hear it.
Thank you, please please dont judge me.i cant help the way i think (link)
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Firstly you are NOT a bad person for not wanting to believe in what others are trying to force down your throat. Religion or faith as I should say, is a very personal thing and cannot be devoured simply because someone is telling you to believe in it. Everyone wants to have something to believe in, so how about believing in yourself and then go from there. It sounds to me that your parents are very controlling and opinionated but you need to remember that, that is the life THEY have chosen for themselves and the way they choose how to act in life. Shit happens to everyone good and bad, if you do bad things all the time then at some point something bad will happen in your life but i have seen good people do great things, people who respect others and work hard and always get the shorter end of the stick. The molestation has definitely scarred you in some way as you have not been treated for this abuse. My advice would be to go see a phychologist and get treated for what sounds to me like POST TRAUMATIC STRESS, this may also help with the stress associated with the tumor and boyfriend issue also. Secondly, you will never die not believing in something, think about who you are as a person. What makes you unique? What are your passions? Things that make you happy and feel independent ??? Now Independence from your parents is what is needed here, you need to get out there live life, take what ever comes your way, the good and the bad and protect yourself from the one who make you feel like shit, the people who want to drag you down and make you feel worthless. You do NOT want these people in your life. Your family is your family and it might help trying to talk to them about the way that they make you feel, if you do that and they till dont want to listen then maybe you need to cut your losses and get out there and start living!!!!!
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