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No, maybe fat isn't the BEST word. Obese is more like it. I'm 19 years old and I probably weigh close to 340 pounds. I have been obese for about 10 years now? No maybe less than that. It has to be less than that. Anyway, I'm getting off track.
I have always thought that because I'm so fat that I will never get a guy, however it was just a passing thought that would always return so I never was bothered by it, until the past couple of years. My self-image is so poor that when I walk into a building and I see my reflection though the glass I have to look away from it quickly so I won't see myself. Each time I look at myself I feel this wave of disgust, shame, and fear.
There is not a darn good thing about myself I find like able at all. Even my personality is called into question because while I view myself as a good person, I find that my faults (such as my Irish temper & obesity) will conquer over any good will I have. I feel so scared that I won't ever find a man who will find me attractive in anyway at all that I will never marry and have a family, like I want to.
I feel ashamed of myself so much that I refuse to apply to work at a near by clothing store because they won't hire a fat girl that can't even fit into the clothes they sell. Also, I'm even starting to have trouble finding clothes my size at Wal-mart. My grandfather who is a WW2 vet never says a thing about my weight, and yet in my mind I think that he deserves a better granddaughter who is pretty than I am.
I don't know, my mom constantly tells me I need to lose weight but for me I just can't stop myself from eating. Oh I notice when I'm over eating but I just can't stop until I'm full. My brother who is younger than me is only a few pounds short of being considered a healthy weight for his age group won't stop insulting me by calling me a fat a**, fat w***e, you know all those good names.
My self-esteem is so poor that if I do meet a guy that might hold real interest in my personality that I will never be able to trust him on his word because I will always assume that he's just saying it to be nice and polite.
Anyway what a pity rant I threw out into this wonderful Advicenators section. I just wanted to know if anyone had any tips for an obese woman to lose weight, right now I'm trying to convince my family to eat at home as much as possible since take-out isn't a good idea. Any exercises that would help me lose weight would be great.
I have no idea how to boost my self-esteem since all I want to do is hide in my room. If anyone knows what to do regarding that, it would be helpful...
Sorry for typing so much but I can't sleep and I have class in a few hours so I was hoping this might calm me down and help me to rest.
Thank you to anyone who answers. (link)
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Some simply diet changes can go a LONG way. You will have to work hard to change the habit, but once you do then you'll be happier and proud of yourself for not eating that stuff.
1. no SODA. No sugary drinks. Stick to juices, water, and teas that have low sugar. There is so much sugar in soda and if you are a soda drinker then cutting out that (depending on how much you ingest) will make a huge difference. There is like 41g of sugar in a can of coke, that is like 8 or 9 tablespoons! If you are drinking soda, stop! That will cut down automatically on your sugar intake.
2. Get exercise videos. They can be rented at the library or of course bought. You can set these up in a room in your home. It can be embarrassing to work out in public, I understand that. So at home perform a video. You can do it! Determination, perseverance, and persistance are incredibly strong motivators.
3. Write down exercises to do. Write on a post-it "Everday do 50 sit-ups". You don't have to do them all at once. Put that paper on your wall and DO IT! =D
4. No take out. Home cooked food is the best. Try not to add salt to your diet, too much sodium is bad.
5. No junk junky junk food. This will be hard if you are a binge eater. DETERMINATION! You can do it. I can tell. If you are willing to take the steps to ask for help, then you are ready to drop the weight. When you snack eat a healthy (good tasting) Wheat Thin instead of a chip. Eat a low-fat yogurt. They are quite good. =D Make fruit shakes and let that be your Meal. Fill it with whey protein powder and fruits, a skim milk.
6. The key to LOSING weight is to Burn off more calories then you take in. If you are taking in 3000 calories but not burning off any then you will stay the same weight.
If you take in 3000 calories/day and burn off 500-600 then that is a pound off a week. And of course, if you eat more calories then you burn off you gain weight.
7. Calorie counting can be quite tedious, but is very effectual. If you know that that frozen pizza has 498calories (it says so, Real all labels) then don't do it! Cut the calories!
--Avoid high sugar foods. Cakes, Ice Creams, etc.
--Avoid sodas
--Get work out videos and DO IT! =D
--Drink water
--Watch those calories. Burn them yourself and lose that weight so that you can let yourself feel beautiful. =) And of course, maybe spit on your brother for being an ass. Pardon the language. Good luck to you. Kick the weights ass. You control your body, NOT the other way around.
Tiffany/=D
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i want to boost my energy for school because last year i was very drained (maybe it's because i rarely stopped at my locker and i was carrying an extra 30 pounds on my back all day!). i am eating fruit salad everyday with grapes, mango, blueberries, and strawberries and it's helping a bit.
(1) although i haven't started school yet, what can i eat in the morning, during lunch, and right after school to give me a quick burst of energy without making me crash?
(2) are there any energy supplements i can take that work or any other suggestions?
(3) should i go to my doctor & ask them what's best for me? that might be a little awkward cause i go to the doctor every few months cause i get frequent stomach viruses...
i did get enough sleep but most days i was so tired i'd finish my homework and sleep for 3-4 hours, wake up for dinner, and go back to sleep until the next morning. i really want to avoid that this year.
i also heard that exercise helps boost energy, but i tried doing that last year and it would make me even MORE tired and all i wanted to do was sleep! i can't exercise in the morning because i don't have enough time to exercise, then shower & get ready all before school unless i wake up at 4 am.
(4) so if i do exercise, won't it make me more drained? or should i start out slow and easy first and either keep it that way or build it up slowly?
(5) is gym alone adequate exercise for a girl like me? (i'm 15.f. 5'3" 115 lb, so i'm pretty happy with my body and i don't want to lose weight / get MUSCLE-Y!)
(5) i have an elliptical, but what sorts of exercises can i do do boost my energy?
thank you so much. (link)
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My advise would be to try coffee in the morning or even tea. Tea has much less caffeine in it, but it does have enough low amounts that could help with your energy.
Buying a whey protein powder and making shakes with it I think will help. I usually just have one for breakfast or lunch, or after a workout and they are loaded with protein and vitamins--those of which seem to keep my energy levels high! I also add fresh fruit into the shakes so they even taste really good.So if you want to try something new, I'd try the caffeine and/or protein.
I hope you find something good for you.
Tiffany/=)
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wow i need serious help
i am so white like its scary. not really but is there a good spraytan that stays for a while. i hate reaplyying things a million times please let me know (link)
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I have a different opinion on tans. It is just the newest culture fad that is sweeping the nation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking the way you are supposed to look. However, if you still wish to tan then the "easiest" way to do this would be to go to a salon. I do believe the 'high performance' beds are the beds. They cost slightly more but they are upright and I think they spray you? I'm not sure on that. Be proud of your skin color though! If everyone starts tanning then it will be the few who don't that will stick out and I mean that in a positive way. =D
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I don't noe if I have a yeast infection(embarassing). How do I know I do? And how would i tell my mum? (link)
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A yeast infection will smell...like yeast. A discharge will be present usually really thick. Don't be confused though, a normal discharge could be the same. I "think" that with a yeast infection it is generally described as being chunky like cottage cheese. I personally have never had one, but I do know certain things can cause them. They are common in women who are pregnant and also, so I've heard, if you wear tight, thick underwear that does not allow the vagina to breathe! It needs air. The proper underwear to wear is a thin cotton material. If you still aren't sure, I would go to your local pharmacy and ask the pharmacist, they should be able to help you free of charge! That's what they are there for. :D
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My right thigh muscle hurts..a lot. When I lay down, when I walk, when I'm sitting, whenever I move basically. I'm not sure whats wrong with it.
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/massage-therapy-point-thigh-knees.jpg
Theres a picture to show you where it hurts on my thigh whenever I do anything. Also, sometimes when I walk I kind of just.. stop..not because I want to, just because my leg doesnt move much and then I end up like tripping because of it. Any idea what this is?
Thank You. (link)
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How long has this been occurring? Firstly, I would suggest really stretching the muscle everyday, a few times a day and drinking protein shakes. The shakes have helped me with muscle soreness. If you read on the package it will say so. Of course, I can't guarantee it would work, but it might be worth a try.
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Hey, ive been getting discharge for over a year and i still havent started my period is this normal?
It turned brown and now its gone clear and goeyy is this also normal??
thanks
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The clear consistency is just fine and natural. The unnaturalities that you might look for would be if it was green or yellowish which might constitute gonnorea, or perhaps even chlamydia. Any brownish tint should simply be a little bit of blood. Since you haven't started your period, be not afraid, you will probably start soon enough. The brown is simply spotting. If you're still really worried, try seeing a Gynocologist or perhaps a nurse at school! :D
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