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Ever since i could remember my parents havent been exactly intimate i guess you could say. They have always seemed happy together and i always thought they would be together forever. Then a few days ago my mom told me that she was having problems with my dad and that they might get divorced. i was shocked and hurt. it killed me that i couldnt do anything about. and the worst part of it is i am the only one out of my family that knows how my mom feels. my dad and brother are clueless. i dont know how to handle this HUGE secret on my shoulders. how can i handle this horrible situation. please someone tell my what to do!

Well, For one, you just told us! But, you should talk to your mom about it. Even though it may not be easy. Pull your mom aside one day and ask her more about it. Like, having a mother daughter conversation. Believe me, it will take a lift off your shoulders by talking to her! Hope you take my advice, and i hope things get better.

_Kadi_

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I'm an only child. Through my childhood, I spend a lot of time at home. I didn't have THAT many friends at school, and I didn't have any friends in the neighborhood, so I was at home a lot, and I spent a lot of time being with my parents. When dad was at work and mom had to go somewhere, I would go. When I was a little girl, I spend SO much time with my mom. And my dad. My friends and other family members would say that I went everywhere my mom went. By 7th grade, I started to get a little...crazy. I got very moody around them, and every little thing they did would bug me. I felt like I needed to get out of the house and get away from them. I got to the point where I would go to my room and cry because they bugged me so much. They weren't abusive, they weren't mean, and they gave me everything I needed and more. But just having them around and nagging bugged me. I disliked them so much. But I didn't tell them, because I had no reason to. They just thought I had developed an attitude. Now, I'm in the middle of high school, and my mom has threatened to leave before because I treat her mean and I get mad at her all the time. And I really shouldn't, I know that. She's a great mom. But now, its like she's always nagging at every little thing and calls me like every 5 minutes (not to 'check up' but she has to have me do something for her, or she has to tell me something that I already know). She doesn't understand anything. And she's nosey. God, I just don't know what to do. I do have an attitude towards my parents, they've given me everything I needed, etc. I just spend way too much time around them. I even told that to my mom one time, and she was crying and yelling at me, saying "Well then from now on, I don't even want to talk to you! You're always so mean to me! From now on, you find your own rides and I just won't have nothing to do with you!" When she told me that I started crying too. I don't totally want her out of my life...I'm so confused. What am I supposed to do?

Okay..this is happening at home with me too. Tell your parents that now you're older, and things are changin. You love them very much, but they're used to spending alot of time with you. You're their child, and they dont want to let go. Have like a family meeting, and maybe schedule some time to spend with your parents instead of them bugging you all the time. Tell them that you're getting older, and like to have more privacy. And that you don't have an attitude, but your just developing in yous school life and your friends. Yes, i know that you love your parents and all, but you need your own space too. So, i hope i have been helpful, and i hope everything works out fine. I really do understand what you are going through.

_Kadi_

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