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I've had this problem for years. My parents and my sister always accuse me of talking too much and see nothing wrong with interrupting me in the middle or end of my sentences to tell me to shut up and that I talk too much. I respond by telling them that I was already done talking and that they should'nt assume I'm going to say more, and that it is rude to interrupt someone even if you don't care about what they are saying. At least if it's someone you care about, you should find a nicer way to tell them. They don't listen, they just keep telling me to be quiet when I try to tell them how I feel. I sometimes end up in tears, and then they tell me I'm being grumpy or silly. I'm 35 years old and I'm tired of being treated this way. How can I get them to listen? It's especially embarrassing when they do this in front of others, like my daughter, husband, other family and friends. I'm I partially to blame? Please help!
You are not to blame! This is your parents and sister dominating you. Is your sister older than you? If so, I can see why this is happening.
Find an infuention relative, like an aunt, or someone in the family who you get along with and - most importantly - will listen! Sit them down when they're in a good mood and tell them what the problem is. Explain it as fully as you can, and remember to tell them exactly how muchit hurts to be dismissed again and again. Ask them to talk to your family and try to make them see what they're doing.
If that doesn't help, just start doing it back. Interrupt them when YOU get sick of them, tell them THEY talk too much. (Word of warning: don't go overboard.) If they carry on talking regardless, do something else and act completely uninterested. When they ask why you're not listening, say, "You don't listen to me; why should I listen to you? I'm an adult now, we're all on the same level."
If THAT doesn't work, go to your confidente again. Just keep trying to get them to help you sort it.
Remember: they're the idiots. Not you! You shouldn't have to put up with this at 35.
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