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Q: hi i am 17 and i am trying to find my half-brother. i have never met him and he is 2 years older than me and see here is the story.Before my dad met my mom he was in a relationship with this girl, and she ended up pregnant. well when she had him, she gave him up for an adoption. well i want to find him and reunite with him. all i know is he got adopted and was in Alaska. i have no clue where to search for him over the internet. i dont have any credit cards or anything like that. i was wanting to know if anybody knew a website to got to and try to find him and it dont cost nothing. my dad does not know i am doing this and i know if i reunite with him it would probally mess his life up. they told me it would. but i just want to find him . if anybody can help then please do. i mean this means alot to me. please help me

~Punkbaby69~

not tell your parents is going to make it hard to do this. cause if it was a closed adoption then you probable won't find much. but if you know what is whole was before he got adopted then you can google his name and see if you can get adoption websites to pop up. and maybe he kept his name and you can find something on him though his school because most school stuff is on the intert. but finding out details from your father "just because you want to know" will help and most adoption places have websites so see if you can find that out too. and even if you find him, without your parents you probable won't be able to go and see him. good luck though.

Q: Hey all..My parents are REALLY strict and when I say really, I mean REALLY. They wont let me go over ANY guys house, nevertheless even let me hang out with guys. But they'll let them come here but id rather not have that because I have SO many kids living in my house (7 girls, 4 boys) that we would never get privacy at all. What can I do to sneak around without getting caught? Or how could I persuade my Mom and Dad to let me hang out with boys..

to get them to change their minds is going to be hard, but you can try and convience them that you aren't doing anything with them and that other people are going to be there. or promise that parnets will be there even if there aren't. or go somewhere and don't tell them that guys will be there. to keep from actually lying you can hang out in a really big group of people and just tell your parnets (if and when they ask who will be there) that some of your girl friends and the guy friends that they may like, trust and/or know are going to be there. Good Luck!

Q: Ok me and my friend recently went to the movies and we missed our show so we were jsut hanging out and talkting to this really hot guy.So we told him we would come back next friday ( because he works there) and so I asked my mom and she said she wanted to go but she would just see another movie.I really dont want her to go so how should I say that without hurting her feelings??Should I say just goo shopping or something?!?!

Moms can be tricky, so I say find out whether is wants to go to check this guy or is wants to go to be with you. If it's to check up on the guy, then there is most likely no way you're going to talk her out of it. But if she wants to go to be with you then see if she would like to reschedule so that it can me just the 2 of, a girls day out.

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I'm Sarra, I'm 15 and in 10th grade. I like to give advice and I'm generally pretty good. But my only problem is I can't seem to give myself advice so if you guys could help that would be great. Hope I'm helpful.