I currently work for Nemours Children's Clinic and I work part time for Baptist Medical Center. I have an amazing boyfriend, we have been together for about a year and a half and have a nice place together. I love animals. I am majoring in psychology and love giving advice to people!
Gender: Female
Location: Florida
Occupation: Student/ Baptist Medical Center/ Nemours Children's Clinic
Age: 23
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I'm so depressed now a days. I just started this new school that I like so far yesterday. I've made a lot of new friends already and have been getting along great.
A bit about my family: My parents are divorced but now are living together. Not for sex or anything, we just needed some where to live so my dad let us stay with him. I just moved to Orlando, Florida from ATL, Georgia about 2 weeks ago.
Okay, so, I'm in the bathroom straightening my hair and my dad is in the living room talking on the phone. My mom's out, and she won't tell me where she's going.
I hear him talking to a realtor because the landlords are kicking us out December 1st because someone is moving in. He's talking about how she's all messed up and goes out and drinks, and how she shouldn't be doing that when she has a kid to raise. I started crying because, well, that's just kind of hard for a kid to hear when she had no freakin clue WHAT her mom is doing.
Now i'm so worried about her. She will never talk to me when I bring up drinking because she divorced my dad because he was an alcoholic.
NOW! she wants to move TO A DIFFERENT STATE AGAIN when December 1st rolls around, forcing me to start over again at a new school. THATS THREE SCHOOLS IN ONE YEAR! that's alot for a 13 year old girl to go through, don't you think? She won't even let me talk when it comes to that subject either.
I love my mom so much and she's my best friend, but I feel like I don't know her anymore. What do I do, how do I help her, and how do I get my opinion across without causing a fit?
Thanks in advance
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I'm really sorry to hear that. Write your mom a letter and tell her how you feel. Your whole family is going through a lot right now, and she probably feels lost and alone. Let her know that you're there for her, but that you need someone to be there for you too because it's just as hard on you as it is on her. Let her know that it hurts you when she goes out drinking. A lot of times parents don't see what they are doing to the kid unless you tell them (although they should). I'm sure it's tough for her to be living in the same house with her ex, and she may feel she needs to get away. Ask her if you can get some family counseling. You shouldn't have to worry about her problems, you are just a kid, and you should be able to live in a stable environment. Let your parents know that you don't want to move again. If you can't talk to them, writing them a letter would be a very good way to get your point across. That way you can think of everything you want to say, and make them sit down and talk with you about it, like a family meeting. I hope this helps, and if you have anymore questions or if you just want to talk please e-mail me. Good luck with everything.
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hey guys. k so im in this special program for smarter people, also known as IB and we are already into it for 2 weeks now. im in grade 10 and this is my second year doing it. last year i didnt do this bad but the 2 assignments we got in history and english i got 59% and 50%. my dad especially thinks that im just not trying hard enough when i really am. watever i say he makes up an excuse for why im doing so bad. he wont beleive that IM JUST NOT SMART ENOUGH FOR IT! how can i let him know this or say something or something.. please help!! (link)
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I was in the I.B. program for 9th and 10th grade, and I felt exactly the same way you do now. I was overwhelmed and never had time for anything else. Eventually I decided to go to a different school because it was the best decision for me. I took AP classes at the school I went to for 11th and 12th grade and I ended up getting a scholarship which pays for all of my college. The I.B. program prepares you for college, however, if you take Advanced Placement classes, it helps you just as much as taking I.B. classes. If you don't think you can handle being in I.B. anymore, just explain to your parents that you're trying your best and see if there's an alternate method of taking advanced classes without feeling overwhelmed while still achieving your goals. If you feel you want to stay in I.B., I suggest getting tutoring before you get too far behind and becoming part of a study group. Either way, just level with your parents and let them know your feelings towards the situation. Honestly, it won't affect you negatively if you decide not to be in I.B. anymore. It looks better for colleges if you have A's in standard classes than if you have C's in I.B. classes. I hope this helped and if you have anymore quesions please feel free to ask!
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All day my sister has been stratching me pinching me hitting me and kicking me. Everytime we have the littlest arguement which is litally every 2 seconds, she has to hurt me in some way. She even bites me! I have marks all over my skin from everytime shes ever hurt me. My arms and legs are covered in stratches blood marks and brusies from her. I know all sisters fight with eachother but sometimes I feel like it gets outta hand. Today, she got mad at me and stratched me and she wouldn't stop I kept yelling get away from me and stuff and she wouldn't stop so I pinched her so she would get the fuck away from me. One little pinch sends her into tears and she runs to my mom and of course no matter how much my sister hurts me, if my sister is in one little pain of discomfort and blames it on me my mom will always take my sisters side. I showed my mom all of the marks, and she goes good I'm glad she does that to you, if you got hit by a bus right in front of me it would be hard for me to PRETEND like I actually care. I never care what people say to me but when it's my actual mom I break down crying because I hate knowing people don't care about me. My sister pinned me down on the floor and handcuffed my hands with my dads old handcuffs (he used to be a police 20 years ago) and she started kicking me so hard and pinching me I couldn't move I felt like I was going to burst and just die. My mom was 2 feet away watching all of this happen and kept saying hit her harder, hit her harder. My mom doesn't care what happens to me. So I was still pinned down in hand cuffs so I tried to kick her with my leg to get her away from me but I was closing my eyes and by mistake I LIGHTLY kicked her "bad arm" to make her stop torturing me and she starts balling her eyes out. Of course my mom yells on the top of her lungs "GODS GOING TO GET YOU DONT YOU DARE TOUCH MY BABY YOU USELESS PEICE OF SHIT GO SLIT YOUR WRISTS." I said "mom did you see what she was doing to me she had me pinned down in hand cuffs what did you expect me to do just sit there." And she goes "I don't care what she does to you I hope you die." and she walked away. I ran up to my room crying. And then about 20 minutes ago my sister got mad because we were playing a ps2 game and she lost so she pulled my long hair so hard a huge chunk of it came out and I didn't cry but I tried to hit her but she ran away so fast so I popped her balloon that she got 3 days ago from a restaurant. My sister told my mom (but of course left out the part about her pulling me hair) and my mom started yelling at me and threw me on couch and just started beating me she hit my head so hard about 9 times it still hurts and she tried to choke me with the balloon and tried to stuff it down my throat. I managed to get away and I ran up to my room. I'm 13 and my sister is 10 so of course she never gets in trouble. My sister gets so much clothes and toys and cds and anything she wants she automatically gets no matter how stupid it is. My parents don't buy me any clothes I have to wear the same clothes from 2 years ago that don't even fit me any more. They don't buy me any nice things and when we go out to eat they don't even let me buy a drink and make me order off the kids menu when I'm 13 and I'm skinny but I eat A LOT and I finish the kids meal in 5 minutes and I'm starving while my sister 3 years YOUNGER then me is munching on a huge steak with 3 sides. I hate it!!!! My sister never gets hit and I always do. My mom throws me against walls and she even does it infront of my friends!!!! I can't stand this my sister always hurts me and I always get in trouble. I tried the police, but my mom lies so much so of course they believe my mom. My friends help me out so much and make me feel so much better but if they arn't at my house they can't see whats happening to me and its up to me not to get myself killed because no one else cares.
What do I do? I'm sick of living like this. My mom and dad won't even let me have a talk to them about it. (link)
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I can't believe that your family would do this to you. You NEED to tell someone about it. Maybe a teacher at school or a guidence counselor. If that doesn't work, call child protective services. By law they have to investigate every child abuse allegation. Show them the bruises. If there is any way you can, set up a tape recorder or a video recorder and try to get it on tape. This will help you when you show them to the police or child services. Take pictures of the bruises and get your friends to write statements saying what they saw. Make sure you keep telling people. If they don't believe you, then go to someone else. What state do you live in? I'll help you contact someone who can help you and put you somewhere you can't be hurt. Please keep your head up and know that this is WRONG and it's not your fault. No one deserves to be treated like this. Your mom should NEVER lay a hand on you in anger. That is child abuse. If you contact me via e-mail (XBrooklynHeights@aol.com) or instant message (s/n XBrooklynHeights) I will try to help you any way I can. Is there any way you can talk to one of your friend's parents for support or stay with them for a while until you can get the help you need? I think it would be a very good idea to get an adult whom you trust on your side. Try to stay around your friends as much as you can and remember that people do love you and they do care about you. You're just in a really bad position right now. I hope to hear from you.
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