Ny name is Kerry Jeanne. I'm 19 in my second year of College. I'm about to transfer to another college in Southern California where the weather is beautiful and the city is alive! I love to give people advice and help them through sturggles in life. I happily live with my amazing boyfriend and roommate. I have a bulldog and a shih tzu. I'm very crazy, happy, outgoing, optimistic, funny, sweet, caring, and a total introvert. I'm spunky and always have a smile on my face. If I could have it my way, I'd be goofy all the time but when the time is needed, I know when to get serious. Life is great:)
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I'm 16f and my brother is 14. His room is next to mine. about two weeks ago I was looking for something ona a high up shelf in my room and I noticed a small hole in the wall. I looked through it but couldn't see anything. I didn't think anything about it and sorta forgot about it. Then like 5 days ago I was in my room getting ready for bed and right when I took off my bra and panties to take a shower I heard a noise right where the hole is. I was totaly wierded out and decide to check it out. The next day I went into his room and figured the hole is in his closet I went in there and saw his set up. He has a chair in there and a box of tissues (YUCK!!!!) From the hole, he can see most of my room including my bed. I was so scared since that means he's probably seen alot. I'm not a really bad girl, but I have snuck a few guys into my room when my parents were out and clothes have come off, and I do do things when I'm alone. I've had friends overnight and they've changed in my room. Now it's pretty clear I've had an audience. I'm totally pissed at my brother for doing this. Until now we get along great and I actually elt him hang out with me and friends becuase he's pretty cool. I really want to tell my parents on him but two things stop me. First my brother might turn the tables and tell my parents that I've had boys over, which they absolutely don't allow. Second, my dad has a really bad temper and is very strict. He'd probably whip my brother's ass off (I mean it, my dad still uses the belt on his bare ass if my brother doea something really wrong. 10 or fifteen stripes is pretty typical for a beating. It leaves my brother howling and he cant sit for days) and then who knows what he's do to me over the boys. I'm too embarassed to talk to my brother because he's seen so much. So I don't know what to do. I can't even cover the hole since my room was painted in this custom purple and we don't have any left. Any paint there would clash. Any advice? (link)
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Your brother's behavior is totally unacceptable. It's also not okay to be letting these kinds of things keep happening. I know your father sounds like he has a temper, but if this kind of behavior continues from your brother, things can get far worse. He is invading your privacy and turning into, well a monster. You need to talk to your parents. If he tells them about boys coming over, well the best you can do is deny it. It's your word against his, but for the most part I think your parents are going to believe you considering the hole in the wall with the chair and the tissues in his closet. Show them when he's not home so he can't say anything about it. That way you can show them full proof. You need to tell them, trust me it's not going to get any better. Good Luck!
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Ok so before I begin I know what they say...you made your bed now lay in it.
i met my boyfriend(?) 6 months ago and then like a few months after i started to give him my car so he could use it while i was @ work .. i know it was a bad idea but i liked the idea of seeing him. last night i got the worst phone call of my life. He had crashed my car, however nothing had happened to him. My parents didn't even know I had a boyfriend let alone he was using their car (registered under my dad) and along with that he was operating a vehicle with a suspended license. he has been caught 3 times operating a vehicle with a suspended license & has not been arrested.
so now the car is trashed & my parents are going crazy on me. they made me quit both of my jobs and they're only allowing me to go to school. i turn 18 next week and im wondering what i can do to get out of this situation.
they're forcing me not to talk/see him. and the only reason i didn't tell them about him was because they wouldn't have approved bc of religious views.
i could move in with him but he has no, i have no job we aren't going to get anywhere. plus if he ever fails to do what he promises to do i can't return to my parents bc they won't accept me (link)
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No matter what, your family comes first. You're parents don't approve of him and they have a perfect legitimate reason not to. Their intentions for you are only good, so don't ever think your parents are 'out to get you'. Think of it this way:
Your boyfriend knew he had a suspended lisence and has been caught 3 times, yet it didn't bother him to do it again and get you in trouble. In this situation he should have been thinking of you and he wasn't.
Also, if you move in with him when you turn 18 - I highly doubt you will get your parents approval, and it is not easy living on your own especially without any support.
Honestly, it may not be the advice you want to hear but you should move on from this trouble maker because you deserve better. Focus on graduating and earning your parents trust back. They are the most important people in your life and trust me, they will forgive you and they will always love you.
Good Luck!
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