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Hey,my names Cassie and im 15 years old.I live in Brooklyn,New York and i really cant wait to leave >.< The things that keep me sane are my friends and music.Im not sure what id do without them.Im pretty good at giving advice,as long as you dont expect to hear what you want to and for me to sugarcoat things because thats not how life works,and its not how im going to give advice.I've always wanted to be a writer but im not really sure anymore.I cannot stand stereotypes,so if you use them,dont use them with me.I wish there was more people out there who arent fake,but what can you do?Anyway,ill be happy to answer most of your questions,so feel free to ask =]

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Hey. So for a while now my mom has been drinking alcohol a lot. She has been moody and when she dinks you can tell. She gets all fazed and dosen't understand or react well to things that you say or ask. She knows it is a problem and went to meetings for it but that she just stopped. She hasn't been going. When I was little she was never like this. She rarely ever drank. Now with stress from work and my sister and I she just changed. My sister and I did softball and she came to about 1 to 3 of the games, and made my dad go to the rest or dhe would have another person drive us home. She hasn't been involved in anything that my sister or I do, and now she is even working on my sisters birthday and won't be home all day even though she has that power to ask her boss to have her work another day. When my mom drinks my sister yells at her and is really hard on her which makes her drink more and when I try to confront her i never know what to say and if I do say something her only answer is that shes working on it and that she doesn't want to talk about it. Please help! What should i say?

i know it must be hard seeing your mom like this, but you have to talk her when shes completely sober,and dont yell at her like your sister did.Shes vulnerable right now,and yelling,as you saw makes it worse.This is going to sound so dr phil/soap opera lol but tell her how you feel.Gently.Explain to her that its ok to drink a little ,every adult is entitled to it.But when she is drunk and you se her it makes you feel bad , like you cant help her and its making you unhappy.Listen to what she has to say and be very careful not to insult her.Im not going to lie, theres a possibility shell tell you not to tell her how to live her life.But just try to get to her the best you can.
sorry about the situation your in
good luck =]

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15/f

my mom makes me crazy!!! we used to be bestfriends and now we fight over everything! she screamed at me for about 45 min today cause i took a shower in her bathroom and she always tells me to get out of her face and stuff. and she loves my bf more than me. she sides with him on everything.

my dad is just a jerk. he works so much hes barely home but he always yells at me when he is. he tells me im stupid and worthless... im an only child so it doesnt help. concrete angel by martina mcbride is my theme song.
someone please help me... i hate this

Wow,this sounds just like my situation.What you have to do is,tell them how you feel but dont start a big screaming,crying,emotional scene.Its not fun.Just walk up to them calmly and say "I understand that your my parents,and yea, i screw up but everyone does soemtimes and im sick of you disrespecting me and treating me like dirt"
Make sure its known that it hurts your feelings and brings your self esteem down.You dont deserve that kind of treatment.As for your boyfriend,tell him that you have enough problems at home and the fact that he sides with your mother doesnt help the situation,it creates more of a problem.He should be there for you when your feelings are hurt, not sit there and make you feel worse.Stand up for yourself and keep your dignity intact.
Good luck,hope it helped
- Cassie

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