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well, my bf and i go to diffrent schools so we try to hang out as much as we can inbetween my soccer and work for both of us. during the week i try to go over his house every night i dont have soccer adn she always fights with me about it...
i mean id have him over my house but she doesnt like people over??
what can i do to make things better between my mom and i? (link)
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you can start by sitting down and talking to her about it without fighting. Just be like mom, im old enough to have a boyfriend now. And just ask why she wont let you go over there if he cant come over your house. Just be reasonable about it and try to work out a deal with her. What works for me is when me and my mom go out by ourselves and sit down for a bite to eat I then come clean and talk to her about everything, it works better that way and it doesnt get my mom mad at me. So just try to have a mother daughter day or what not and tell her how you feel. :-)
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I recently started dating a guy with a very very close family. I am 22, he is 24, and still living with his parents while he saves up to buy a house. The problem is that I'm starting to see signs of his parents making too many decisions for his life.
First of all, he is christian, and quite religious. Me and him have made the decision to wait to have sex, at least for now. I think this is a personal decision that is between me and him.
He stays at my house sometimes, and has already slept in the same bed at me while staying at my mothers house, at my house, and at my sisters house. There is not a problem with this because we are both adults, and are very capable of making out own decisions.
But, recently he told me that he doesn't think he should stay at my house anymore because his parents are already getting suspicious. He has already told him that we're not having sex, but, apparently, they don't believe him, and are trying to stop anything from happening.
Another thing is that I'm planning a trip to Florida, and he really wants to go. He is allowed two weeks vacation from work, and would only need one week. The problem is that he works for his father. I would not see a problem if his father told him "I don't think I can give you the time off, because I need your help here" But, instead, he said "I don't think you should go because you need to save your money"
This guy is 24 and is capable of making his own decisions on where he sleeps at night and what he spends his own money on.
I'm wondering how I could make this clear to him, that it bothers me, without making it uncomfortable. I do not want to make things uncomfortable for me and his parents, him and his paretns, or me and him. Any advice would be much appreciated. (link)
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Ok you may not like my advice, but its the best advice I can give you.
You need to sit your boyfriend down and tell him whats bothering you, because if you cant do that then how are you and him gonna make it in the long run? Just make it clear to him that you dont hate his parents, you just think he is old enough to make his own decisions without his parents running his life. If that was my boyfriend I would sit him down and be like this is getting out of hand, not that I dont like your parents but we are both old enough and mature enough to make our own decisions now, our parents cant tell us what to do for forever. What your b/f needs to do is stand up to his parents. Cause without standing up to them, they are just gonna think they can run all over him. He needs to tell them to not worry about his life. Even if he is going to be mean to them, either way his parents are going to eventually learn and back off, if he says something. And if it doesnt work, then he should move out as soon as he possibly can. Because even though they are his parents its none of their buisness on how he runs his life. I know they are probably watching out for him, but since he's 24 they are still treating him like a little kid. I hope everything works out for you :-)
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