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OK ive been to a few sweet 16's this year and everyone has the same thing : music and food for like 3-4 hours. People who arent the dancing queens and are dancing all night..tend to say they are bored, etc. For mine..i def dont want that to happen.

Is it a cool idea to go swimming for 2 hours at the hotel(im having my party there) with my closer friends ..then a half hour later the actual party starts? There are showers and i could bring a hair dryer (its a nice place) so my friends could do my hair so its not sopping wet. Also, there are a ton of pretty cool games i found off the internet which i was figuring would keep everyone happy.

Examples are :

(twister,hula hoop contest,game where two teams and together as a train..everyone has to walk to the finish line in single file while everyone has a bananna they have to get across without using their hands..they have to press it against the backs of the other ppl,

guy belly dancing contest, dancing/singing contest,pinata,limbo, and the human string relay, where there are two teams in a single file line. The first person has a spoon tied to yarn, and they have to put it down their shirt and pants..pass it back..same thing happens,,whoever is done first wins, "Roast" where people get up and tell funny story about guest of honor (me), game where as guests come in..you give them a necklace and tell them if they say any form of "yes" then the person who hears that can take their necklace away..person with most necklaces at the end wins.

for all these games i was thinking spending $50 on prizes for the night and for the winners i would hand out prizes

if you dont like these could you give me an idea on how to keep everyone happy and for my sweet 16 to be different and unique? thanks!! 5's for everyone who isnt rude because i know this is super long..but its really important to me

thank you again! :)

wow! thats a really good idea! it sounds like everyone would be entertained and have tons of fun! good ideas! the games are for everyone so make sure the prizes fit the people! great job! good luck and happy sweet 16!!

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Hey well i am like having all these problems with my mom and i love her very much but she just yells at me sometimes for like nothing and im really freaked out because she gets me mad and depressed i feel like killing myself or like cutting myself!

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Depressed little gurl

dont cut yourself or try to kill yourself. it doesnt help or get you anywhere. try talking to your mom and telling her how you feel. it might not work at first but maybe your mom is under some stress or there is something that is a deeper problem. just talk things out with her and if at first she doesnt listen keep trying. also talk to someone about how you feel. someone will understand and things will be okay. good luck!

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Lately, I've been feeling REALLY lonely. How do I tell my parents that, I don't want to be here anymore? I'm tired of my friends, I'm tired of my family, and I'm tired with the people around. I do hang out with good people who make good decisions--I'm not tired about that. But I don't feel completely happy with them. I sometimes feel a little left out, and I do blame myself for not being more "in the loop". But I don't have that many things in common with them. My parents are also good people. They give me the things I need and have brought me up pretty well. They really are good parents. I'm just sick of living here and being lonely. I feel like theres no one around. I recently just lost my "best friend". She was great, but I did realize that she wasn't exactly the kind of person I want to be friends with (she constantly reassured herself by making fun of other people, she was REALLY competitive @ EVERYTHING, etc.). Is there anything I can do, or anyone I can talk to, or IM? (Theres a lot of other things I'm upset about) Is there anyone who's been in a state of depression or anything? Because I seriously need to talk to someone.

its okay to feel lonely sometimes but at the same time not want to be with anyone. every once and a while everyone gets sick of the same old people and the same old thing. i think maybe you should just talk to your parents about it. tell them how you feel and im sure they will help you feel better. try talking to one of your closest friends and maybe they can help. if not then keep talking to someone about how you feel but dont do anything you will regret. just try and talk it out because somebody will be able to help you. good luck and feel better!

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