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My wife and I recently can home from out to dinner and found my 14 year old son and his 14 year old girl friend in the family room on the floor having sex. To be honest we did not come in on them for about 5 minutes because we went straight to our room and kept hearing "something" and finally went out and there they were completly naked and had obviously been active for at least all of the time we were there - and for a while before. There were two used condoms on the floor and my son was using a third.
Yes they stopped when we came and. We told them to get dressed and clean up. We called his girl friends parents and discussed the situation with them. They said that they had been having safe sex for six months. She too is on the pill while he uses a condom. I am ashamed to say they are more careful then his mother and I were when we were young. They are good kids and do have a happy healthy relationship together (without the sex). We do not want them having sex at such a young age but we are not sure if putting up an "iron curtain" between the two of them is the answer - the girl friends parents agree too. We can use some advice.
Thanks
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From experience I can tell you that telling your kid they aren't allowed to do something makes them want to do it more, and they're going to do it anyway no matter how much they have to sneak around. It's really a crappy situation knowing that your 14 year old should still be innocent and is not. Really what the girlfriend's parents are right, I mean, the best way to handle the situation as it is, is to make the consequences of sex in a conversation as real as you can to them, and that birth control is SO important because raising a kid is HARD, and almost impossible for someone who is just a kid themselves. Although they feel like they're adults, theyre not and will not realize that until they're much older, how much they didn't know and how much they should have listened. You can give them your opinion, but I feel that its too late to stop it and will only cause a wedge in your relationship with your son. I hope this helps
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is there a way to get the law peoples (government)to let me not live with my parents,, because my house is like world war 3 and i cant take this anymore. (link)
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No, not really. You have to get them to sign a paper making you legally an adult. So good luck. I tried that when I was a kid too. But really, you need to stay with your parents. I thought my house was bad too...then I got out into the real world. Taking care of yourself sucks, and having to go to work every day sucks. I moved out when I was 16, and I wish i would have stayed home the 2 years I had. It's a really tough world out there and you aren't prepared for it.
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please comment if u hate ur parents. ok so me and my friends nickname EVERYTHING, and so we nicknamed going to utah with her as "getting drunk" as a joke. then my stupid ass mother got on my fb and read our conversation and we were talking about "getting drunk" (going to utah) and then she FREAKED out and i was like wtf? so now she thinks im going down the "wrong rode" (link)
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You may hate your parents now, but trust me in the long run they'll be your everything.When I was growing up, I NEVER got along with my mom. There are a lot of things about my youth that I regret. One, the biggest one, was thinking I hated my mother. Take a step back and think of how your life would be if your parents weren't there for you. Your parents are the only people who will always be there, no matter what. If you didn't want her to freak out, you shouldn't have code named that "getting drunk". You don't see what's wrong with that? Obviously, lol you're young yet. You don't realize what you have until its gone. Cut your parents a break..because someday they won't be able to be there. And you WILL miss them and regret everything you ever did to upset them.
Good luck
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