A few details about myself,I am 82 years young,retired at 77years and now enjoy being a columnist although I have not contributed much so far,and bye the way i am English.
I am married and my wife is a young bird 76 years and we are in our 57th year of marriage.
We started early as she was 11 years old and I was 15 because my sister married her brother and in the early days we used to wrestle over comics (we got off over doing this which we did not admit until many years later as it was not the done thing in our days),We spent a lot of time together in air raid shelters with the womenfolk as the bombing was very ferocious.
I was called into the Army at 18 years and served with The British Army and also with the Indian in Burma and also sometime with Vinegar Joe Stilwells American Forces where the fighting and conditions were horrendous but the comradeship of all nations were unbelievable.
I arrived back home in 1947 and the reason for being late after the war finished is that I joined one of the searcher teams looking for evidence as to the fate of 330,000 prisoners of War and Civilian Internees missing believed killed.
I married in 1947 and we have 4 children and now are looking for things to do and probably bring a little joy or comfort to our correspondents
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Location: England
Occupation: Retired
Age: 82
Member Since: February 23, 2004
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My dad made me cry my eyes out today. This is what happened.
Well last August I was asked by my cousin to be a bridesmaid for her wedding in April of this year. I said yes, and at the time was unemployed. Well I have a job now at a really good company. But I'm still on a 3 month probation. My grandma (who is paying for the wedding) was expecting me to take 3 days off on a weekend this Febuary just for a dress fitting!! She lives 6 hours away, and I would have had to take the greyhound bus. I told my dad this and he started screaming at me, saying that I was going to lose my job over this. I have a mental illness, and this is the first job I've had in 5 years. He said I would never get another job again and that he wanted me to drop out of the wedding, and that the job was too important. Well I started to cry because I really want to be a bridesmaid but also don't want to lose my job. I asked him if he could phone grandma and make some sort of comprimise, like maybe get the dress fitted her. Then he said "the fact that you're crying shows how delicate you are". He was really mean about the whole thing.
I still want to be in the wedding. I talked to my grandma and she is going to send up the fabric for me to get a local seamstress to make the dress so I won't have to take time off work until the wedding. But I'm still really upset at my dad. How should I act around him? And does anyone else think what he said was out of line? (link)
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I think your father's concern was mainly about your future as it is your first job for five years as all parents are when their brood is growing up, that is why he went over the top which I agree with you was not right but you must realise parents have tantrums as well.
Try not to be hard on him and approach your new firm and request the time off as the arrangement fot the wedding happened long before you were employed by them, i am sure you will get a sympathetic hearing
Moggie
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my mother died a couple years ago and i feel like it's my fualt. as a child i didn't get a lot of attention from my friends so i kept wishing that someone in my family would die! and it happened and i regret everything i wished! is it my fualt my mom died? (link)
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I am afraid that this is a part of the growing up process which if you cannot get your own way or your parent do something which you think is awful but you are too young to understand why these things are done which in most cases for your own benefit but you cannot see it, so you lash out and think all kinds of wicked thoughts and hope that one of them will happen which when you are young is soon forgotten.
It is only when something really happens that people tend to look back and wonder was it really their fault but forget it as it happens to all of us
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my dad will not let me ride around the neighborhood with a big group of friends or just one friend! he thinks someone is gunna snatch me up! so i have bike that i can't ride! i have to ride with an adult! it's
SO embarrasing! i tried talkin to him but he is being such a a........ (link)
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You have not stated your age and the type of area that you live in so we only have a part of the story,also we had 4 children who thought I was a bit of hard character but Mother used to load the gun and left me to fire it so he might not be such an asshole as you think
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lately i cant wait to grow up. like i cant wait to get my period, i cant wait to become a teenager, i cant wait to go to colledge, i cant wait to get married, i cant wait to have kids, i cant wait to drive, like all of that stuff! does this mean anything?
*lauve645* (link)
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It definately means that you are going to have a very wasted life because with this attitude you are going to rush through it and not notice all the beautiful things that surround you.
Take you time enjoy everything because you are
only here once.
As an 80 year old listen to you elders, learn how to live through their errors and if they are like me there has been plenty, don't rush and good luck
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