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My parents invited me to go with them this weekend to laughlin, as a thank you for watching there dogs when they go out of town. But I don't want to be a third wheel. They have already stated that there are things other than gambling there to do. But I know my parents, and they like to gamble.
Any advice will be greatfully excepted.
Thanks;
Confused
Hey,
more than likely, your parents would really enjoy your company, so I definitely say go. However, maybe you all should make an agreement before going, just to assure your portion of the enjoyment. You could ask them to take this one trip and not gamble at all?? Or maybe to just promise they won't gamble on certain nights, or before/after a certain time? Stress to them that if you go along, you want to spend time with them, doing what you all like to do. I say your best option is setting limits on their gambling, that way they'll have their fun, but they won't let gambling dominate the enitre trip as a whole. Hope I helped =)
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Im 18, going to college in a month. My brother is already away at college, my parents have been married for 25 years. i know my dad is cheating. I have told my brother, but i havent told my mom because there is a very strong sense in me that my dad will kill himself or hurt himself if someone were to find out.. which happened to my best friends dad. It doesnt matter what other people say, in my head im 150% that it'd happen. because i know hes cheating and have to watch him lie to me and my mom every day, i have no trust from him. Our relationship was great before, we were with together every day. now, were never together unless its a family function, and we dont even talk. i know hes lying to me, and everytime he does i wanna snap on him and just scream out all my anger and hurt but i cant. It kills my heart deeply that im going away to college with no relationship with my dad.. i look foward to events like getting married, and him walking me down the isle and all that... and i dont see it, because were not even close at all. My mom doesnt know or sense anything cause she works nights, and me and my dad are never home during the day. ive gone to counseling.. and still there never found a solution so i stopped going.
I really need help. My trust for everyone in my life is gone, and i dont wanna lose something so important, my family or my relationship with my dad. Its the worst feeling in the world..
Hey,
I know this has got to be a really tough situation for you. A close friend of mine suspected the same thing of his father not long ago, and came to me for advice. Like I told him, you can't let what happens between your parents damage your relationship with them individually. Your mom may already sense what you sense for herself. You have to remember, your parents are a couple. Just like you and your significant other might, they'll have issues in their relationship (marriage) that they'll have to work out together, for themselves. Your dad is still your dad, and I'm sure he loves you very much. You said the two of you used to be very close, so I'm sure he's a good father. Don't let your relationship with your dad wither away just because he makes mistakes. He's a man, he's a human. Also, don't distance yourself from other potentially productive relationships just because of this situation. Everybody is not the same. Just learn from his mistakes and work on re-buliding you guys' relationship as father and daughter. Hope I helped =)
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