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Q: hey i have a problem! i think my family hates me.....grandma,sisters,brother and uncle to be exact. ( to help those are the people i live with )anyway i think i hate them to cause they hate me and yell at me all the time so i should hate them to!i want to leave the house really badly. my grandma says i'll be grounded if i leave but i dont care what should i do?
there are millions of kids all over the world who feel the same way you do...like noone at home really loves them...or even likes them. many kids have felt this way before you and many will after...not to minimalize your problem...not at all...but just to reassure you that your not alone.

this is temporary. you will be able to leave as soon as you turn 18. take atvantage of the free room and board and plan your escape!

much luck
Louise

Q: Ok. My mom just had surgery on her foot yesterday and since then its like everything I do is getting on her nerves. Its like I can't do anything right anymore. And I understand that she is tired and hurting but I have been trying to do all that I can to help her and make her comfy without getting on her nerves but she gets mad at every little thing and she never says thank you or anything when I do something for her. Now its starting to piss me off. I know that she is not her normal self right now and is on pain meds and stuff but its like she has to complain about every little thing and she neverd 'asked' me to do something...she yells at me to do it.
I have been trying to just let it pass but it seems like its just getting worse and worse and I don't know what to do. A little while ago she fell on her foot and I heard her screaming and she never told me to come in there and help her or get her anything she just tried to do it on her own then she ended up blaming it on me....like its my fault that she wanted to get up and didn't want me to help her...I don't what to do...I feel guilty about staying in my room because she might need something but if I stay with her she finds something to yell at me for...
what do I do!!!!????
having surgury hurts! and she's probably frustrated that she can't just get up and do what she needs to. also whatever they are giving her for pain might be changing her personality a little bit. this is temporary...make it as easy for your mom as you can. you know her...what does she like? straighten her area a little...make sure she has what she needs within arms reach. tell her its perfectly ok to call you whenever she needs something and try to be cheerful and helpful... and instead of waiting for her to yell at you to do something...try to anticipate her needs and go ahead and do it so she has less to stress over.

before you know it your mom will be feeling better and she will appreciate your maturity and helpfulness. trust me...i'm a mom so i would know.

keep your chin up and dont piss her off...ok?

love louise

Q: so i leftmy binder in my dads truck and he read through one of my notebooks...a very private notebook i might add...he read how many guys ive had sex with and diifernt drugs ive tryed and shit like that...he told me this tonight as he pulled it out of his briefcase....and read me all the passages...how should i handle this...cuz hes not handling it too well...:/
thats messed up.

don't lie. it will just make you lose all credibility.

lesson learned...never never put anything in writing. if you must express yourself through writing--get an account at livejournal and protect it with a password.

i'm sorry that your privacy was invaded...its embarassing as hell...be more careful in the future...

love louise

Q: ok my sister's 16 birthday is coming up! i want to get her something special beacuse ...u know its her 16! but i dont no wut to get her!
any suggestions!
i rate high!

thanks!
how about making her a gift basket????

you could put some bubble bath in there and some nice lotion and body spray and a candle...some cute socks and maybe a gift card....thats really nice of you to be planning ahead for your sister...i hope she knows how much you love her...

love Louise

Q: I feel so bad that my mama and me dont always get along. She's my real mom and we have an arguement like 75 percent of the time we're together. she usually starts it. she'll yell at me about my attitude. and i would yell at her and shell get all mad at me and i get mad at her. sometimes she comes to apologize. but one time i told her off when she was trying to apologize then she yelled at me and she doesnt apologize anymore. now when we argue, it wears off. sometimes i go 2 days without talking to her but i dont want to. i wish i could get along with her. the sad thing is that i really need her. i cant wish for her to go away because i need her no matter how much we dont get along. she just doesnt understand me she tries to help me but ends up making things worse and i know its not her fault we just argue more than we spend time together even when we are spending time together. im sorry this is so long but i dont know what to do. can somebody help me?
you should never yell at your mother. i dont care if shes screaming at the top of her lungs...no screaming at the mamma.

regardless of what she says or what she does....shes your mom...moms have immunity...if she tells you to watch your attitude...its because she loves you. remember this it is very important....you only have one mother. your relationship with her will change as you grow up. sometimes its hard for adults to accept those changes. the fact that your mom tried to apologize to you says alot about the kind of person she is. some parents say mean things and it never even crosses thier minds to apoligize.
you cannot change your mom. she is who she is. but you can change the way you react to her. you have the power to change yourself.

so you already know that barking at your mother doesnt accomplish anything. try approaching her differently. speak softly...respectfully. she will notice the change in you.

take care
Louise

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