I am 18 years old and about to start college. I know that the world can be tough and that people can be cruel. I started this advice column to help all people. Age, sex or nationality does not matter to me. I just want to help people through their problems and be a shoulder to lean on when no one else is there. Whatever the topic is, I am certain I will have some great advice for you. Love, school, boys/girls, family, friends, work, PARENTS!!!, anything you want advice about. I have been through a lot and have had friends who have been through a lot. I know how things work. When you need a shoulder to cry on or hair advice for your big date tonight. I have it. All you need to do is ASKAMANDA!!!
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Location: kentucky
Occupation: tanning salon attendant
Age: 18
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I am 18 years of age. My family and I have dreamed of moving to another country for 12 years. We finally have the opportunity to do so and we have taken it. However, my sister now has a boyfriend and is threatening to stay behind. She wants to marry him as soon as possible. She is 16 years old. This boy is 19, has quit school, has been unemployed for most of the last 3 years as he is continually fired, and is known to lie frequently. How can i make her see that she is too young for this and that he is not worth giving up her family and her future for? (link)
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Your sister is going through a very familiar stage. SHe is rebelling because it will get her noticed more. I am also 18 and my sister is 15. she thinks she is in love and wants to marry this boy who will be 18. He to, has the job problem. he also dropped out of school and ironically he is 3 years older than my sister. It is very common for the younger sibling to feel detatched from the rest of the family. But since she is only 16 and cannot provide for herself yet, your parents still maintain control of her life. Unless she becomes emancipated, but then she would have to prove to the court system that she is able to provide for herself alone. Older guys have a way of coming over younger girls. But don't worry. there are lots of things that you and your parents could do. What is the legal age for sex where you are at? If worst comes to worst you or your parents could always get him for statutory rape. Then your sister would have absolutly no choice. SHe would have to leave with you and the rest of your family. Hope i helped.
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How do I help a runaway whose parents are verbally abusive, and I thing are overall crazy! Her parents are longtime friends of mine but their style of discipline seems crazy. The child in question ("SUE"), is 17 and is basically a great kid. She's mannerable and has just started to show interest in boys. She was adopted by my friends when she was around 5 years old after being abandoned by her natural mom in a homeless shelter. She has adjusted well overall but I can understand that she has to deal with the past in her mind as well as deal with the problems of growing up. They have changed the locks and told the other kids in the house not to let her in but they tell me she was not put out! What do you call that? THey refuse to let her get any clothes and went to her job and got her last paycheck so she relies solely on me (which I don't mind). I took her home because they tricked me into thinking I could get some items and they blocked the door and took her! I could hear them shouting, calling her names, and now I fear that they have taken her to a receiving home. I am DEVASTATED!!! I hate that they are doing this to her and feel helpless. I also feel guilty that I actually believed them only to be tricked and now she is suffering. What should I do or could I do? (link)
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I know that it is hard to see a child grow up in a home like that. I also grew up in an abusive family. I to had to rely on fellow friends. It is very tough. If at all possible, take the child in question and ask for adoption rights. If there is any visible evidence of foul play the court will immediatly pull her out of the house and place her in foster care. So if you love the child and feel that you can support her in every way needed, get her out of there. I am studying criminal justice in college and child abuse will follow her for the rest of her life. I had counseling for a little over 2 years off and on because of my past. It is not easy to deal with. She really needs someone right now. It must be hard for her to rely on you. No one wants to feel like they are a burden. Let her know she is welcome and that you will try to help her in every way possible.
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