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I'm 18 now, but my parents and I have stopped getting along so well since I was about 15. I miss it terribly.
They always say they're so good to me because they're always giving me things (it's true). I really do appreciate those things but I want more than material things from them. I want to feel loved. I want hugs and kisses and long talks about school and boys.
I'm always a little depressed over this. I know sometimes I give them a bit of an attitude because of this frustration. I want to explain to them that I need more than things bought for me. I want to develop a good relationship with them again.
How do I explain this to my parents? (link)
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I think you should just sit down with them and tell them what you think. Tell them what you just said here.
And you can also be more open to them. Like just gradually bring up what's happening in your life. First bring up something small, such as what you did at school...then if you keep talking, you'll eventually talk about more things.
And do some fun activities with them during the weekend. Just surprisingly be like "let's do something for the weekend"...you could start out with something small, like going to a cool restaurant...and maybe eventually you and your parents will be doing more bonding.
Just show them you care about them and that even though you appreciate the things they give, show them that your parents and their love are more important to you than any THING they give.
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My sister is 15-years-old. We have had problems with her for years, she doesn't do anything anyone tells her, has screaming tantrums on a daily basis, steals from us and more recently has been kicked out of school.
Today I found out that she is pregnant by her boyfriend of six months. I am absolutely livid. This is my final year of school and I will be taking important exams around the time that the baby is due. It is also my 18th birthday next week, which is a pretty big deal as I live in the UK, and we were planning a big party with family and friends. Obviously this is now being completely overshadowed.
I know I'm being selfish for just thinking about myself but for years I have suffered as a result of her behaviour, baring the brunt of my parents' anger and finding it really difficult to stay at home as the constant noise and arguments are too much. This feels like the last straw. This year is so important for me and instead of fully supporting me, my parents are going to be preoccupied with this.
I know she might not even end up having the baby as it is very early days and she hasn't made any decisions yet, but I am furious with both her and my parents, who I partially blame for this. Ever since she got together with her boyfriend I told my parents I didn't think it was a good idea to let her stay at his house and that she wasn't using protection but no one listened to me. They are now angry with me for being upset. My sister and I had a bad relationship anyway but now I don't want her anywhere near me. As far as I'm concerned she has ruined what is going to be one of the most important years of my life.
What should I do? I honestly don't think I can bare being anywhere near her, let alone live with her, especially if she decides to keep the baby. I can hardly look at my parents because I'm so angry about their attitude and the way they're dealing with it. (link)
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She didn't ruin your life. And besides look at you: you are 18 years old, almost done with school, you have a whole life ahead of you. Think of it this way, would you rather be in your sister's shoes?
Give your sister a chance and show her some support. She is afterall your sister and since your the older and smarter one, you have to show her that you care for her. Who knows, maybe you'll end up loving your sister and her baby.
Right now, she needs your support despite her past mistakes. I understand your suffering and it is hard to deal with anger with your sister. I don't think your parents want to take your fun away on purpose. They're probably heart broken too with what happened with your sister and it's hard for them to take it. This is a difficult time in your family and you should really just understand and support your sister. Understand how your parents are feeling too.
I hope all turns out well for you and your family.
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