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I am dating a guy who is AMAZING! he has a 4 yr old who i love! my problem is that when we have her EVERY WEEKEND he sleeps in her bed with her every night! and when i tell her or ask her to do something he underminds me because its not what she wants!
he says he trys to give her her way bc he only hets her on the weekends... but its making it where im about to GIVE UP and tell him to pack his stuff and hers and get out of my apt!
but i really love him... so idk how to handle all this! (link)
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I once dated a man who had a child from a previous relationship, and at times it was a struggle.
If you really love this man, than you need to be sympathetic to what he is telling you about this situation ... he feels guilty that he is not there everyday.
All you can do is tell him that you understand and assure him that you want his daughter to have fun when the 3 of you are together but you also want her to have rules and boundaries.. the best thing for that little girl is for the 2 of you to give her a "family" environment on the weekends that she is at your place.
He should stand by your side when you have made a decision. Perhaps the two of you need to sit down and communicate a little more - u should ask him what he expects from you when his daughter is over on the weekends. Maybe he thinks you are asking to much of her...
I also gather from your message that you are getting frustrated that his daughter is over every weekend... Is it possible for him to spend some time with her during the week and than possibly her spending every other weekend...
In the meantime, it sounds to me like you and his daughter need a "girls day out" ... sounds like there is some tension and if you truly love this man you need to bond in a positive way with his little angel and if you can't than you should just let them go ... she is never going anywhere and she is only going to get older ....
I don't know your details like how long you and him have been dating and how long he has been a single dad .... this might be all new to him as well in respects to having a girlfriend and a daughter ....
good luck
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