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My daughter is only, 12 days old. Premium Formula makes her eyes real goppy she can't even open them we are taking a warm wash rag over and over again wipeing her eyes several times about every 5 minutes. I switcher her to Soy milk and she got really bad diarea but her goppy eyes stopped and I was afrid she was going to get dehydrated so i m oved her back and called the doctor and still waiting to hear back from her has anyone expierenced this or no someone that has?

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Hannah is my bro's feiance. She is a bad situation at her house and when she turns 18 wants to move in with me. Im ok with her living with me but I will expect certain things from her like going to school and having a job. Do you think expections would be a bad thing and if not what should I expect out of her?

There are many real life situations where living with a person or alternate family can be a very valuable teaching lesson for growing up and accepting responsibility. You have a great deal to teach her, yet you want her to feel she has a better living situation with you than where she is coming from.

Always, always, start with a room mate "contract". Make it casual, and encourage her to offer her concerns and expectations of you as well. I am sure she has some things that she is worried about as well. Take a piece of paper, draw a line down the center, and give each other promises, commitments, and concerns, one for one on the paper. Make a copy and both of you sign both copies. There will be conflict, that is human nature, but having it in writing makes it clear what you expect of each other and much less likely you will annoy or upset each other with behavior that makes the other unhappy. Be flexible enough to sit down in 30 days and re-write the concerns, as after living together the REAL concerns will come out of the woodwork and should not be ignored.

As far as school goes, you need to explain to her that you want the best for her, and that includes at the very least a high school diploma. She will soon learn that to be anything in life she needs to develop specialty skills that technical schools or community college offers quickly and affordably. Those are personal choices, but you can encourage her along a good path.

Please let me know how things end up. 2 of my daughters had lived outside of our home right around their 18th birthdays, and they are doing very well and are reasonably happy with the choices they made.

Dear Susie

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okay i'm 14/f and i already have my ear lobes pierced. today i asked my mom if i could get my cartilage pierced and she went off and said no. i was like wtf? the only reason she had was that ears aren't meant to be pierce their ears there. i even offered to pay to get it done but she still wont budge.. how can i get her to let me get it done? im about to just do it myself..

One of my daughters came to me at around the same age and I felt she too was too young. Being a teenager, she was going to find a way make a way. She decided to prove to me that she was responsible in many ways that I didn't know about. She made a list with examples of good decisions she had made in potentially bad situations, she convinced me that piercings are a privilege (certain ones are okay for teenagers). Find out what your mom's "hot button" is, what is really bothering her about the piercing. Then give her lots of love and respect, and a little patience. You will get your piercing when you can make her feel good about it. Good luck and let me know what happenes... Dear Susie

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