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My friends have always said I've been good at giving advice, so I'm trying this so i can help more people. Dont get mad if I'm bad at this pleease. =Plittle info:
age: 16
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sign: aquarius
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well my mom and her boyfriend got in this huge fight like and it started to get physical and like it was really bad because my mom was crying and like my mom b/f just like did it right in front of me and i just thought it was the most horrible thing that anybody has done to her. then i told my frined what was wrong because she asked me and she told the counselor but she didnt use my name and the counselor said that i should talk to her but i/m not sure if i should. so is it a good idea?
i think it is a good idea. if your mom is in an abusive relationship, or even if it was only once, then you both need to talk about it. she should either get out of the relationship or get help, because if he is abusive or can be at times, then its no good at all for her, or you, especially if he does it in front of you.
well um i cut my self once or twice and i am really depressed today and i did not cut myself yet but i want to but i know its bad and i need another way to help. because i am so lost i just don't know what to do. thanks
well first off, please don't cut yourself again, at all. anytime you're feeling bad just think about the good things in your life, or if for some reason you can't, find another outlet. what works for me is to go listen to music, sing/scream along to it, get all your energy out. it's best to find music and lyrics that fit how you're feeling and why you're angry or depressed. if that doesn't work, just lie down, breathe, and try to go to sleep. you'll most likely feel better when you wake up. but cutting is not a good way to deal with things, it's just a quick fix that you'll regret a lot after you do it, or even while you're doing it. it helps some pain now but brings a lot more in other ways, and it hurts other people too, that really care about you.
my mom and her b/f fight constantly and to me i dont see the point of even living w/ her cuz its the same as it was when i was younger. Plus i HATE my moms b/f im not really sure why but i always get this feeling like i should hate him and i've had that feeling every since i met him 5 years ago. should i confront him about it or try to find away to ease that feeling?
-depressed
i guess one answer would be to go and live with your dad, but i don't know if you'd be able to or if it'd be the same there. but you might have the feeling that you should hate your mom's boyfriend because it's like he's trying to be your new dad, trying to take your real dad's place. but he really isnt, he just wants to be able to help you like a father might, not take his place. you should never keep your feelings bottled up, you do need to talk to someone about it. if you can't to your family, then you should at least to your friends.
i cut myself all down my arm and i'm afraid that a teacher is going to ask me what happened now should i tell them the truth or lie?
well it all depends on how you wanna deal with it. you can either wear long sleeves for the rest of your life (not a good idea by the way) or you can let them know what happened. if its a teacher you know you can trust, go to them at a time when the two of you can talk. if you really dont think you can trust them, you could lie, but chances are they might not believe you. even if they act like they do believe you, they still might know youre lying and that shows a lot more distrust to them. it's best to find someone, hopefully an adult, that you know you can talk to, and go talk to them.
Okay, this may sound really stupid, but I'm serious about asking this question. I'm a girl, I'm thirteen, weigh 105 pounds and I'm 5 foot seven. I'm so tall, and I HATE it! I wish I could stop growing! No offense to tall females, but I think that tall isn't really that flattering for me. My mom is always complimenting me on how tall I am, and I hate it so much! I don't want to be tall! She won't even let me drink coffee to stunt my growth! My doctor said that I might even grow to six feet! I don't want to be that tall! I hate my height already! I'd be happy to be 5 foot four! ARGHH please, is there anything I could do to 'appear shorter' or to stop growing??
well theres not really anything you can do to make yourself shorter, but you can change your views on it. being tall isn't a bad thing, and you can make the best of it from your own views. a lot of people like taller girls, it's all just personal taste.
I love to masturbate, I can't stop, and I don't know what to do..should I try stopping? Is it okay to be "turned on" all the time? At least twice a day...im 16
teen hormones, especially in guys, are very heightened. it's not wrong that you're turned on all the time, but you should be able to learn more self-control and not masterbate so often. if you get yourself to thinking you need to relieve yourself that much, you'll start feeling like you need to even more.