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Q: Well, I don't know what to put this under. So I am 22 years old and I am just now getting a bit more comfortable accepting my body dysmorphic problems. As far off as I can remember I've always wanted to be a boy. I was born female. Growing up was terrible for me, kids made fun of me up until junior high, for acting and dressing like a boy. My parents put a stop to it and told me to "act normal" or else I would never have any friends. For the longest time I've felt very confused, I just always wanted to appear more masculine to others and I don't really know or understand why. Putting sexual orientation aside. My parents and brothers and sisters would pick on me and thought maybe I was a lesbian. But when I told them I liked boys over girls they began to laugh. My mother even once told me, "Let me get this straight, so my little girl is really a little homo." Yeah, well putting that all behind me now, I finally moved out but I feel very distraught about it all. Living alone means I can finall wear what I want. Meaning male clothing. But I am very nerve wrecked about shopping. And about cutting my hair. In high school for my junior year when I cut my hair I was called a dyke all through out until graduation.
So I guess I would just like some tips or sites or books that can point me in the right direction of passing as a boy rather than having people view me as a butchy lesbian. Not that I have anything at all against them. I just feel terrible having to force myself to look all female. I've done some searching online but all I find are ftm but "lesbian" wise. Nothing on "transfags." One more thing is,I work with two siblings of mine in my mothers catering business. So of course I see them everyday for a few hours. I feel uncomfortable about it all with my family for obvious reasons. Everyone else in my family is, "normal." Meaning straight. At least that we know of, so it only makes me feel more alienated. I don't know what to say to my family about it if they ask. My youngest brother is support of it, he always asks me about it, and he states. "You'll make a handsome gentlemen one day sis." lol But as for my sisters and elder brother, they tell me I'm disgusting and to just be normal. Otherwise I will never get married or have children. Which honestly I don't care much for finding anyone, I just want to feel comfortable with myself and understand myself. I mean you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first, right?
Well I'm sorry if this is long and hard to understand. But any help at all, thank you for it.
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sweetie, what you are going through is one of the toughest things about being a trans... being accepted by others. Now many people will tell you things like your lesbian and stuff but you know what... FUCK EM. Dress however the hell you want. get your hair like however you want. there are plenty of girls who dress like guys who like guys. there is nothing wrong with you and your family is honestly messed up for what they've said and been saying. be proud of who you are and confront your family because what they are saying obviously is effecting you and your transition to finding yourself. tell them exactly how you feel when they say those things.
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Q: I have an interview for a job in several days (the 15th I believe), and I'm pretty sure I will be drug tested. I am most definitely not a frequent smoker. I've only tried weed four times in my life. Unfortunately, twice was in the past month. What will have been 25 days prior to the test, I drank bizarre weed infused vodka and what will have been a week before the test I took one hit at a party. I'm not sure the hit would really show up in the drug test, as I don't think I did it right. I am a 19 year old female and 5'4 and about 135 pounds. Do you think I will test negative? Does anyone have any detox tips?
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there are actually ways to pass a drug test. you can even buy a liquid that wipes all drugs out of your system. googling it is your best bet so that you can find the nearest store by you that sells one of the liquids.
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Q: Theres someone pretty creepy who has been texting me. I asked all my friends if they new the number, and I know what town they are in based on the area code. Is there anyway I'm able to look up who the person is for free online or something just so I can put my mind at ease? Thanks.
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You should honestly just ignore their texts and/or go to your cell phone provider and have that number blocked from contacting you... these two only being an option after you tell the creep to "go stand in front of moving car" hahaha. If they persist in trying to contact you, call this number...
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Q: I have a REALLY low self esteem, and absolutely no confidence and I don't know how to change that. I feel disgusted when I look in the mirror and I'm ashamed that others look at me. My smile is horrible, I need braces very bad but my dad won't take care of it. I constantly amnhiding my smile, covering my mouth every time I laugh, or looking down or away if possible. I'm skinny and don't have any boobs and I'm not up to societies standards and that bothers me greatly. I keep wishing I can change things about myself when I already know I can't. I just want to know if there's a way to increase my self confidence, or self esteem somehow
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For a long time i myself have struggled with a low self esteem. like you sometimes i have trouble looking in the mirror without just feeling repulsed and depressed. Hint at my name "Unbeautiful Diamond" but the thing about it is, no matter how "ugly" you feel... you're not. everyone is beautiful in their OWN way. And i've seen what society depicts as the "ugliest" girls with the depiction of the "hottest" guys. And it's normal to have a low self esteem. Just work on your image till you find what's right for you. Find something to do that you're passionate about that you do good so it makes you feel proud of yourself. Even try taking sexy pictures (FOR YOUR EYES ONLY) and keep them whenever your feeling low. i mean go all out. put on some makeup and do your hair crazy. And don't worry about boobs... some guys prefer flatter chest actuallly.
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Hey Everyone I'm Diamond.
And on here... expect the truth no matter how much it HURTS or you don't want to hear it.
I'm 18, your typical taurus. a mixed breed. a bisexual. a complete wierdo with a very straightforward blunt tomboyish attitude.
You can add my fb: http://www.facebook.com/UnbeautifulImperfectionist
You can follow me on twitter: @ImperfectDia
You can check out some of my writing: http://allpoetry.com/UnbeautifulDia
You can even follow my tumblr: http://www.unbeautifulimperfectionism.tumblr.com
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Gender: Female Location: Jersey Occupation: Working College Student Age: 18 Member Since: February 26, 2012 Answers: 87 Last Update: March 15, 2012 Visitors: 3895
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