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I am days away from reaching 18 years of age. It’s very nervewrecking because it’m almost in my last stage of adolescence. I know that I still have a lot more to learn, but for the last few days, I feel very sad. Changes will happen for the better, but I feel like it’s overwhelming me more and more each day. My family always keep telling me to “act like a traditional lady” and they always splan everything out for me. I get that it’s part of our culture to appeal and create a good image as a lady, but to me, it’s a bit weird and it sounds like I’m born to impress people. I am willing to grow as a person that I know I will be, and not the person people want me to become. It has taken a toll on me to the point where I stopped doing daily activities that I used to love doing, even freshening up or dressing nicely feels like a chore. I rarely talk to my mother since she’s always busy and she has her own problems too. I don’t want her to have her to listen to me because she might tell me that i’m overreacting and that i should be thankful because she’s still able to feed me. I can take any criticism towards my feelings and thoughts. (link)
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Dear Pressured,
It sounds like you are dealing with issues surrounding identity. Time does fly very fast. It can be scary to follow your own path. Like it or not, we have to fit in with society. Still, you also have to be your own person. You have to grow into who you are meant to be.
Some of the things you mentioned here make me think you may be becoming depressed. It sounds like you aren't dressing nicely or reaching out to others as often. It might be time for you to meet new people. Make some new friends who can support you during this time of growth.
It's time to spread your wings!
Sincerely,
Little Owl
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