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im afraid to ask my love ones if im depressed... but i guess i am becuase well three years ago my mom died when i was 13...and i feel sad all the time and i miss her badly...my dad remarried four months after my mom died and omg! she is the worst step mother ever! she always trying to muniputlate me its terrible but i guess i learned to live with it...but shes not the problem i think...the last days of school my friends got mad at me becuase i couldnt go hang out with them one day so they treated me badly on the last days of school and now i feel alone and hurt...all summer i was dredding to go back to school becuase i think i would have to make new friends so my step mother was giving me a hard time about it and my dad is planning to divorce her after i graduate so that helps...but now i dont want to deal with anything anymore...at these times i wish my mom was here to comfort me and give me advice...so i have been missing her terribly and pretty sad about it all summer and now i dont wanna deal with highschool anymore and i feel like the only way out of all this is dieing...but i dont have the guts to do it thank god!but is all these things signs of depression? im 16 and a girl so maybe its emotional problems...but im pretty stressed out about all this..

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry that you are sad, and it makes me sad to know that you are sad during such a beautiful time in your life-- however, I didn't like high school either, and it can be so difficult being a teenage girl.

I know how hard itt feels when you feel like the whole world is on your shoulders, but you should never look at death as an out.

Obviously you know that, or else you would have the guts to go through with it. Try to dig at where that hope is, because deep in you--your holding out for change, which is good. That proves to me right there that you know life has something better coming for you.

I do agree that you may need to talk with someone about the loss of your mother.

I think that it is possible that you might be somewhat mad at your father for marrying so quickly, & blaming your stepmother for your anger, and I can see why that would be--but it seems that they have been together a while, so try find something you like about her & focus some on that good.

Prayer is huge in my life, and even if I don't get a clear answer or feel unstantly healed, sometimes it feels good just to talk my feelings out, or cry.. or anything God just to vent & have the comfort of someone being there, knowing exactly what I am going through.

I had to deal with a lot of loss all through high school from multiple things, and by the end of my Senior year, I pretty much was friendless, & I couldn't really go to my family with anything...and it was super hard-- I started working & that made me feel better, when I kept myself busy.

I also started writing, because I had all of this pain in me, so writing was a good outlet for me.

I felt selfish at times when I thought about all that I had & still felt so sad--but sadness is something that just finds its way just deep into our bones, so it's okay to be sad, I just hope you know that you can find happiness within you.

I got put on a small anti-depressant when I was 16, & it knocked the edge off the pain... it made each day worth getting out of bed for-- my family doctor just perscribed it, so maybe you can go that route if you don't have the guts to go right to your family.

I didn't either. I went for a common cold, & burst into tears in front of my doctor, and he really helped me.

Now my parents understand a little more, even though they thought it was dumb I was put on it, but coming from my doctor..they listened.

I hope this helps some, even if I didn't offer you much. You're my first question to answer, and I'll keep you in my prayers.

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