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im fifteen. im not gonna say my name because it doesnt matter & my friends would feel weird asking me for advice lol. im a girl so i know the answers to girls problems lol and i can help with practically any question you might ask. if you dont like my advice then just dont ask me for it or dont listen to what i tell you, everyone's entitled to their own opinion.
i am hoping to be a psychologist some day but im not sure if that dream will come true because im only a sophmore in high school so i still have a long way to go before i choose a career.
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Sorry, this may be a bit long...
I have a non-severe (or I don't think it's severe) case of social anxiety. I'm 13/f and I've always been very shy...I'm not the people type and I don't really like talking and dealing with people too much. I don't like going places by myself and I don't like picking up the phone OR drawing attention to myself. Usually I have some one go with me all the time to places and talk to people for me, and everyone is starting to get annoyed with the fact that I always need them for simple things. My mom recently got me a book about it and I don't like it AT ALL because I don't understand it...so now she wants me to go to a counselor!!!! I DON'T want to go to any shrink whatsoever because I don't think that will help...I've been to a councelor before about something else and I HATED IT because I hate being talked to in that "shrink" way. I'm refusing to go but she says I have to if I want to "overcome this problem I have". I think my problem is I just don't want to embarrass myself in front of other people and I don't like being by myself because I'm terrified of being kidnapped or something like that. Just now my mom tried to talk to me about (I don't like talking about things with her because she's like a counselor and it really annoys me) it but I refused to talk and now I'm really upset because she's mad at me. Should I really go to a counselor? Maybe I should get another book? I want to avoid the counselor at all costs...maybe I should just have an open talk about it with my mom and tell her those real reasons why i'm so anti-social? HELP!
I understand why you wouldn't want to see a counselor, especially because you dont like talking to people about stuff like this. So I personally think that you should tell your mom exactly what you wrote here, she would understand your situation better. Counselors wouldnt be the best idea for you because you dont like talking to people much so I think you should avoid going to one unless you feel comfortable.
Sometimes when im alone in my room i will talk to myself..like its hard to explain but i talk to myself out loud..except i answer myself too..its like i work myself thru my problems by talking to myself..does anyone else do this? or is there something wrong with me? i feel stupid for doing it and if anyone were to ever hear me i would die but is it okay to do this?
dont feel stupid for doing it.. i do it too sometimes lol, its not a bad thing. But if anyone caught me doing it then i'd be totally embarassed too =P but yeah its perfectly fine