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All right, I'm a relatively healthy (physically and mentally, I hope) young woman. I've never been intimate with a man. However, I've realized more and more that violence turns me on. For instance, when I see rape on TV or in a movie, I feel myself becoming aroused. When I fantasize, I always have these dark fantasies where a man is hurting me and forcing himself on me. It's not like I don't appreciate or crave romance - I do! Why am I having these thoughts though? I don't want to be hurt or violated or anything, but it just turns me on. Is it all right? Would a man be freaked out if I shared this with him? Would he take advantage of me? I've always thought I was a "good girl". (link)
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Cspinoza1's answer is better than any I could make; I'd just like to add that it's a fairly common fantasy for women, not something horribly deviant. I'd hazard a guess that it's all right so long as you don't try to put yourself in a position to have the fantasy realized, which obviously you have no desire to do. As for men, it depends on the guy. Probably most people would take it in stride, a few it would freak out, and a very few might try to take advantage of you. Can't say as I see any reason to bring it up though.
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I think there should be a requirement on this website saying "PEOPLE SHOULD BE FAMILIAR WITH A TOPIC BEFORE SUBMITTING THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS". Frankly, I feel this is a helpful and useful site. But far to often, people are excercising their "freedom of speech" rights, and disguising their opinions as bonifide advice.
What set me off was a question asked by a friend of a gay male teen. A large majority of the answers were hateful diatribes delivered by self-righteous homophobes. From the advice you would of thought that her friend had leaprosy. Life is too short to HATE.
I had a good friend in high school that was the son of a youth pastor. The son, my friend, was gay. He chose to kill himself rather than live a life hating himself because he was gay. I did not know he was gay until after he died. I have so many woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Much of my advice on this website is given to those that are gay or know someone who is gay. To me, this is common sense. How can someone who is not gay, does not associate with anyone who is gay, has never associated with anyone who is gay, HOW CAN THEY give advice on a subject dealing with being GAY. I cannot give advice to someone about what it is like to give birth to a baby!! I cannot even attempt anything as such for I do not understand what mothers go through. Its silly. Now imagine if I was trained by others to believe that giving birth to a baby is disgusting and I hated mothers. This analogy is outlandish, but this is how I feel about the "advice" many people give.
Now throughout this "STATEMENT" I do have a question. What do you think? Help me to understand. Am I judging the judgemental, making me just as bad? Or do I have a point? This is the one time that I'd like to hear the opinions. (link)
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Well, I haven't actually observed much anti-gay sentiment here. A little is unavoidable, but I haven't even seen as much as normal here. In one topic, three out of twelve replies indicated that the replee wasn't much in favor of gays, and none of which were over the top. If you'd like to link to the topic to which you refer, that could give me a better idea of what happened.
re: judging the judgemental, that's getting into philosophy... and if an issue has philosopical value, that just means there isn't a straight (ein pun! Mein Gott!) answer. I take the view that there may be some true homophobes (like arachnaphobes, not just people who have been indoctronated against gays), and that the rest are idiots because they feel strongly about an issue about which they are uninformed. I don't have any problems with taking this (judgemental) position because I'm not concerned about hypocracy or moral high ground. Anyway, they judgementalised first, so judging them is about equivalent to hitting someone in self defence.
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Im sorry to say that most of the time , when I sleep I dream about killing people or I die in my dreams, me and my grilfriend are really worried about this, does anyone have and advice for me? (link)
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The fact that you're worried about it means that it's not a problem. Neat, eh? Since dreams don't necessarily affect your actions, the only way to predict whether you're going to, say, go on a killing spree is other factors. You're worried, which indicates that you have something along the lines of a conscience or morals or whatever, and don't want to. So you won't. Me and my B in psychology 101 agree that there's a pretty good chance that it's a result of worry or stress or somesuch, and probably isn't a mental problem.
The next paragraph is the 'just in case', which I know is probably irrelevant but which I can't really fail to mention for my, your, and other people who might have a vested interest in this question's peace of mind.
*If* you were a necrophiliac, algolagniac or hematolagniac, (one who derives pleasure from death/bodies, pain, and blood, respectively), it might be a different story. Even then, though, the fact that you're worried would probably mean you're not a danger; paraphilias don't magically make one a bad person and/or make one try to indulge in them. On the other knuckle, if you're experiencing strong homicidal feelings when awake, you probably ought to talk to a councillor.
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i think a kid i know is gay how can i tell if he is or not? he does everything a other guy does and he had a party and invited guys only? is he gay? (link)
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I'm tempted to ask why you care... but let's not go there. Now, evidently you're not about to do something direct like ask (and if you do, who knows if he'll tell the truth?), so my suggestion would be to wait and see. If at some point he a) comes out, or b) makes out with another guy, he's probably gay.
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hey im 15 f, are most teenage girls out there depressed? is it just a faze we go through or is it just certain individuals that are insane.. its not like i have had a hard life but i am always sad and pessimistic about everything. i feel like i dont deserve anything and no one likes me. i have been diagnosed with 'anorexia' i think they are wrong tho, i am a heavy drinker and i smoke pot often, and people are starting to notice the scars on my arms and wrists from cutting.. i put on a front when i with people but when i am by myself all i can think about is death.. i dont know why i am like this i dont have a reason to be, i was just wondering does anyone else feel this way!? (link)
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I would like to recommend that you go about getting help promptly.
Your depression is most likely the result of a chemical imbalance... seratonin or whatever. Well, what is any emotion? I don't like the idea of using chemicals to change someone's personality, but when you're obsessed with death, using drugs, and cutting... it's time for happy pills. Try it.
Now, to actually answer your question, yes. Probably a great many people, most of which either end up dying or getting aforementioned help. Trying the latter first would probably be the best idea.
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