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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. we live like a half hour away and go to different schools so we only get to see each other like once, twice a week if we're lucky. we've made things work cause we love each other. buuutt i have one problem:
he used to text me all of the time like pretty much everyday during the first 5 months we were dating, after that he barely ever texts me, like im the one who has to text first and sometimes i dont even get a reply or he replies like a day later or something..idk...he says he just doesn't like texting, but i like to talk to him and stuff during the week. some nights we talk on the phone but we do that once a week, if that. i've told him i want to text and stuff but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other and he says if i want to text then to just text him but thats not the point you know? im positive he cares about me alott but i just don't know...im jealous of my friend who has a boyfriend that texts her every day. andd they've been going out for as long as we have. what should i do?
thanks 17/f (link)
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you can try one of two things:
1- totally ignore him until HE calls or texts you. and once he does (even if it takes him a week) dont answer RIGHT away, give it a few mins and then when you do answer, respond accordingly to whatever he says but keep it short and simple. do this for a few times when HE texts you first. i believe this will make him start missing you and want to start talking more realizing he does miss your time together or chances to talk alot more.
or you can just simply explain everything to him about how you are feeling and tell him you want more from him, tell him that you want him to show you how much he cares.
*meg*
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15/F
This might be a tad long. :\ Anyway, here's the whole story... I dated this boy when I was 13. After a while, he just made me upset because he was a total pervert and kept touching me. So, we broke up. He said he changed, and being the gulible and new-to-dating girl I was, I tried again. This time, I told him PLEASE, no touchy feely stuff until we're deeper into our relationship. Well, I invited him over one day after school so we could just watch a movie. After a few minutes, he tried to kiss me. With tongue, yes. It scared the crap out of me, so I just jumped back. He said he was sorry. I didn't buy it, but I decided to let it slid. The second thing that happened, made me very nervous. There's this other boy at our school who is known for his notorious talent for getting girls into bed.
So, my boyfriend seemed to be getting friendly with him and at first, I didn't think anything of it. I mean, I sort of liked the player boy anyway... Bad, I know. But then in the hallway, I let my boyfriend hug me since I was cold and stuff. Well, this player comes down the hallway with his girlfriend and winks at my boyfriend saying, "Good. One step closer, pal." That made me nervous and angry. I asked what it was about, but my boyfriend just shrugged and replied with, "It's boy stuff."
Eventually, we broke up because I knew what he was planning from the way he was acting. Well, when we broke up, I told him I just didn't like the touchy feely things HE was doing (groping, etc). He told me he thought I was talking about emotions! Touchy feely means exactly what it says and I couldn't believe he used that excuse with me. Now it's our sophomore year and he's telling everyone that I used him! He's given me the nickname of 'Parasite', stating that I suck the life out of a boy and throw him away! And just the other day, he threw something at me and gave me a smug look. I really don't know what to do about this boy and he's really bothering me! What do I do?! (link)
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I don't even know you and I am proud of you. Your parents would be proud. You should never have sex or do anything with a boy if you know you aren't personally ready to. However, most girls do it anyways, to fit in or just not to lose a guy they really care about. I'm happy to hear you stuck to your beliefs of not being ready till you were more serious. This guy is incrediably immature! My best guess is he doesnt want ppl to know that you didn't sleep with him, he prob feels like it will make him look bad or not as popular (which is stupid). My best advice for you is to totally ignore him. Act like you never even dated him whenever he does something mean to you. If anyone at school asks you what happened, be truthful tell them all he wanted was sex, that your better than that and told him to bounce. You will look very mature. It will show how you respect yourself. If he continues or it gets worse and more inappropiate consult a teacher or guidance counselor, even your parents, they will be able to help you. In the meantime, good job respecting yourself girl!
*Meg*
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