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how do you know when a guys wants to kiss?

Coming from a guy's point of view, if he really likes you he probably wants to kiss you more often than you think. Guys get nervous about things like that when they really care about a girl and they sometimes need assurance that the girl feels just as strongly for them. Sometimes, if you think the timing is right and he's giving you signs, you just have to go for it. Guys like girls who aren't afraid of making a move. If you really think he wants to, just set aside your fears and go for it. I hope it works out. Good luck!

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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks

Although work relationships are unpredictable, you should do what makes you happy. If it doesn't work out, he could fire you without any plausible reason. But if you're willing to risk that in order to pursue the relationship, then I say go for it. However, if your intentions are completely sexual rather than emotional, then I'd advise you to sustain a purely professional relationship with your manager. The effects of engaging in sexual activity with your boss can be extremely detrimental to your job status. Just consider every aspect of your situation carefully and thoroughly and make a decision that is based on your emotions as well as your rational thinking. Good luck!

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I love my boyfriend, but he is such a bigot! He believes blood is blue if de-oxygenated, global warming is a government conspiracy, racism is totally ok, and that dinosaurs never existed. I am a very scientifically inclined person; and I am appalled by his lack of general knowledge. How can I convince him of the truth?!?

Honestly, "convincing him of the truth" probably isn't the best idea. If you try to force your own viewpoints and opinions on him, he'll get offended and take a defensive tone with you, which can only cause more problems. Try to slowly and subtly introduce scientific ideology to him, but not forcefully. If he completely rejects your ideas, then you should either try to ignore the problem and focus on other parts of the relationship, or break up with him if you really just can't forget about it. Variances in intelligence levels and opinions can end relationships. It's unfortunate, but sometimes inevitable. Good luck with your situation; hope this helped!

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