Well im in highschool, I run cross country and track, im in band, I love to give advice to people! I like to help people out when they have problems, but thats probably cause I know who they feel on some stuff. I'm not saying that i never need help I'm just saying that i like to help... Even know my advice may not be the best out there, i still like to give it out.
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theres this guy thats a year older than me (he=8th grade).. he likes me a lot. I get nervous around guys... but he got really nervous aruond me. Were going to skate nite tonight and I have to teach him how to skate (mind you this guy is amazing). He gets so nervous and I'm just wondering some good tecniques to break the ice. If we do, than he's gonna actually ask me out tonight. (he already told all of his friends that know he likes me a lot that we were going out and i really don't have a problem with that) lol
So please help me..
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Well, if you want to talk to him than talk about skating or maybe even him. If you want to brake the ice than your going to have to try to put yourself in his position.
Think about it, I mean your a guy and youre with a girl that you like. You have no clue what to talk about and if you did you think that you would probably say something stupid and she would not like you anymore.
what would you do in that situation..?
If I was you I would try to make him feel more comfertable around you. Dont force the convo. but yet let it come by itself. If you force it than you might end up talking about something that neither one of you know anything about and you might think that the other is really weird or something.
Also, you could try to imagine him as one of you friends that you hang out with at school or on the weekends. That always helps me anyways.
Lotz-o-Luv~Kay
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I have a great girlfriend, one I've been going out for nearly three years now. We have never really fought or argued or been mad at each other or anything. We both have problems here and there with school and home, but small ones with each other. I do need advice on that though...See, my teacher once told me two years ago that most if not all guys will hear a girl tell her problem and then go to try and solve it, when really the girl just wanted him to listen and hear her out. Is that true? Sometimes I find myself doing that, even after thinking about what my teacher said. So my question is...does being a listener and just talking about a problem count just as much as trying to come up with a solution. For these kinds of problems I mean things like: yeah my friends did this to me; I'm not sure what to do about this sport; I feel a certain way when ___; etc. It does seem that half the time she tells me something, I right away try to come up with a solution or tell her what to do about it. It usually ends up falling right back in my face, or making her feel upset. Would you (girls) appreciate it more if the guy that was there...helped out with a solution, just listened to you about it and talked to you about it, or a little of each. Thanks, I would really appreciate it. (link)
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Okay. In my opinion a guy who can just sit down and listen to his girlfriend is a pretty good guy to be with. Because think about it if your girlfriend never listened to you and always tryed to solve your problems, would you two still be together? Probably not, you would have probably got tired of her trying to fix your problems.
well the same goes for girls we like it when a guy can listen to us. I mean yes it's nice when your boyfriend does give you his opinions on how he would do things once in a while but i dont think that I could stand it if my boyfriend told me what to do 24/7.
A little of each is ok, but I would stick to more listening than solving. Because she probably just wants you to listen to her.
If I didnt help any than just go ask her if she wants you to listen more or solve her problems.
Lotz-o-Luv~Kay
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