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Im a fourteen year old girl who loves to help people and Im an aspiring writer and one day I hope to be a social worker so people can come to me about any problems they are facing.

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Okay so around August me and my ex boyfriend broke up. He was my first love and after it ended it's taken me a while to get over it. I have never been so hurt in my life. Well now im doing pretty okay without him and I met someone else and now we are dating. He is very cute and sweet and I like him very much. But Now I feel weird about it. I know I am not fully over my ex, I still love him very much but I would never go back with him because too much has changed and I know I should be moving on but im starting to get those feelings I had when we first broke up and now I have my new boyfriend, he doesn't know I feel this way but I find it to be very unfair for him because now I'm having second thoughts of whether or not I should be in a relationship but I also feel I shouldn't be letting my feelings for my ex knowing that nothing is going to happen between us again get in the way of me being with someone else. SO now Im really confused and dont know what to do :(

First off this is a perfectly normal way to feel because he was your first love and that takes time to get over. I went through this before and it took me ten months to get completely over him so I completely understand what your going through. Im gonna be real and say love sucks! I just lost my secod live and I still think about my first so i can tell you from personal experience You will get over him but youll still have feelings for him and youll never forget him. Stay with this guy and see where that takes you and if it doesnt work then, hes just a guy and he wasnt worth your time.Hope I helped any! please let me know if you need anymore help!!!



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I broke up with my ex boyfriend around November.Everytime I talk to him,I feel the same way I felt for him when we were going out.But the fact is that I've liked this other guy for 2 years now exactly(I know pathetic right?).What i wanna know is...why am I feeling like this? And my ex also told me that he still likes me.

Maybe you still do like him. maybe you like both of them a lot and you like your ex more than the other guy. Im sorry I might not br much help but I hope I clarified for you how you might be feeling. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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16f
I talk to the guy (call him R)I like every other day in gym while my friend (her T) is there, & just recently a little more everyday in another class, but i'll get back to that later. A bit less than 6 weeks ago, when I was still contemplating whether I liked R or not, I stupidly told T in gym about another guy (call him M) I had liked while R was there. About a week or so after this I was sure I liked R & I was totally over the other guy. At one point I realized that I had to make sure R knew that I didn't like the other guy so 2 weeks ago I told both him and T. So I figured that was that. Today in gym me, R, & T were all talking, & randomly R says "So what's going on with M" & I could tell by his face & the way he was speaking that he was being investigative. So I said "Well nothing, I don't like him at all anymore" so he asked a couple more questions to that effect & said things like "you're not even gonna do this.." & "oh but when you see him again…" type things, basically he was making jokes. But I could still tell he was being investigative. Then he said something similar to “So who do you like now” but in a funnier way I just can’t remember ha. So jokingly he was naming people in or chemistry class & of course I was shaking my head. At 1 point T said R’s name but I don’t think he heard it because he was talking over her. After that the subject got changed because T said something else. But I know a sign that a guy likes you is if they ask you about other guys, but the things he said about M seemed like he was encouraging me liking him, but his tone of voice & facial expression still seemed investigative. So am I just being paranoid about the encouraging things he said?

Hes totally into you but hes not sure if you're into him.He doesn know what to say or if you like him so he was asking who you like. Hes just a shyboy and is trying to play it cool and not seem intocause it seems like you wont say who you like because you dont want him to know not cause its him and you're being secretive and slightly shy. You should have T talk to him for you. So, GOODLUCK!!!!


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Okay well I finally got over my ex,because of this new kid that came to my bus stop. He is totally my type and im totally crushing on him. So i started to flirt and after school i invited him to hang out with me and some of the neighborhood kids at the bus stop. he agreed and then it ended up that they all were going to be late. So it was just me and him. Of course i was excited and he looked pretty happy too. But i was in shorts and a tanktop and he looks at me and says "Dress code again?" and he was flirting so i said "Duh, I would wear this to school if possible" and he stopped and so i stopped to and he looks me up and down and say "Well i don't know why im complaining kuz i like those shorts a lot" and so i smiled and was like "thanks" so we stopped and sat down and we were talking about stuff we liked and didn't like and then my friend best girlfriend came and we were all talking and then my other guyfriend came and i ran towards him to give him a hug and all of the sudden i hear my crush going "Dayum look at her shes so hot" and he said that to my bff and i was like "THANKS" And he started laughing too. So then we were flirting again and joking around and all of the sudden i started talking about my otherguyfriend who has a 6 pack and my crush looks at me with this like flirty look and goes "I have a 6 pack" and im like "no you dont" and he goes "feel it " and im like "okayyy" and i felt his stomach..and he had a 6 pack... so i lifted my hand up.

Then the next day i wrote "i heart (and then my crushes name)" on my hand and when i got off the bus he saw it and was like "(his name) what ?" and i pulled my hand away and was like "Nothing," and then he let it drop but like at the bus stop later on i got rlly embaressed and i was like ignoring him and he saw that so he was like tickling me and stuff and trying to get my attention. But like...idk does he like me ? what should i do to flirt more?

SORRY FOR THE LENGTH....

He totally likes you and he was totally hittimg on you! You could ask him to hang out at your house just you and him, no other friends.
Good luck!!!!!


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ok so i really like this guy and he said he likes me (he even said he loved me) but were not going out officially, were just friends with benefits really. we've hooked up a few times but we've never really talking about being in a relationship, but i kinda want to be in one with him.. idk it sounds retarded but i dont know what to do. any advice?

All I can say is if you feel that strongly about him you should say something. Good luck!


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When I start to like a guy, I fall really fast and becoming to obsessive in my own mind. I constantly think about whoever it is at the time and I'll start to want to talk to him 24/7. Of course then I get bored quickly and move on to being obsessed with another guy.

How do I stop this annoying cycle so I can just be more chill with guys?

You could just relax and talk to one guy for a while. Or you could just ignore guys for a while.

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year almost. he will be turning 16 in less then a month and i have no idea what to get him, for my birthday he went over the top. i have 400 dollars so price doesnt matter. hes not into sports, he likes video games but on christmas he said he wouldnt want a game from his girlfriend. i already bought him a chain. i hate gift cards i think that they dont show you care. so basically what can be a big over the top gift to buy for him and to show him that i love him?

you could take him to dinner and then take him shopping for anything he wants.Goodluck!

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i am a 17 year old girl and i dont hav a boyfriend. i like this boy kent he knows that i do. he used to call me squints and his nick name is quints but today when i was getting on the bus i sat down he was like mover over im sitting here but i said no and he laughed and went to the back what do i do. can u give me tips to look flirty and pretty and be flirty thanks in advance i will rate you thank you

You should wear a very elegant perfume as long as it is light with a mini skirt and a tee-shirt and a faint lipgloss.ask him if he would like to sit with you and ask him qustions like what kind of music are you into?, and what's you favorite movie?.



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I really like this boy. A LOT. But, I haven't even talked to him once. We're both shy. I cant stand not talking to him. How can i get over being shy and talk to him? I want to be his friend and hopefully his girlfriend

Just be yourself and casually go up to him and ask him if you can sit with him at luch and just go from there.


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17/f.
me and my best friend sara like the same guy but she doesnt know i like him too. ive known this guy longer than she has though and i think he likes me too. the thing is shes one of my best friends and i dont want her to get mad at me. everytime that he comes around, she's like he's so hott and i dont say anything because i dont want her to get mad. last weekend we were at a party and he was flirting with me and he gave me a hug when he left and she got a little mad at me. he knows that she likes him, but he doesnt know about me. im really good friends with his best friends sister and she said that she would talk to him for me but idk. do you think i should talk to sara? or should i just play it off until she gets over him cause at the party she didnt even talk to him and she's not shy.


thanks in advance =]

Look, you need to be honest with both sara and this guy, if things don't work out then just subtly make it known that you are available.



Sincerely,

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