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Hey! And thanks ahead of time ^_^ Might as well get the usual stuff out. I'm an 18 year old female from Chicagoland and I have a boyfriend (*gasp shock*) named Marc who is 21.
Marc and I met about 3 years ago online, and even though we lived rather close, we didn't meet up until June of last year. We started dating theoretically (meaning we were open to each other about having feelings for each other, but were both in relationships) in January of this year, and officially dating in March. We've been together since then, have never had a single serious fight. In addition to being each other's lovers, we're also best friends.
We've never had any problems to date, though we both knew in August, I was going off to college about 5-6 hours away, and he was spending a semester in... Japan. We both knew it was going to be hard, but that we loved each other enough so that it would not be a problem.
The night before both of us left, we talked about *dundundun* our future together, namely, marriage. We both agreed that we are definagtely not ready for marriage, but would like to establish SOME kind of future.
When Marc gets back from Japan in December, he goes back to his own college (all the way ibn Minnesota T_T), but after that, he graduates in May. He has plans to go to Grad School, but wants to save up some money first, so he was planning on taking off school for a couple years and work to save. To make a long story short, we decided upon him moving down here to where I go to college and getting an apartment that both of us can pay rent on and live together.
Now here is where the advice comes in. Marc and I truly believe thsi is the right thing to do. We've lived together before (in his house at college for a couple weeks in April of this year, and on and off throughout the summer), so we know each other's quirks and that we're compatible and whatnot. We both love and trust each other enough. BUT, I would really appareciate an outsider's opinion of things.
Also, although my parents met and love Marc, I don't know how they'd feel about me living with him, and I'm pretty much deathly afraid to bring it up to them. Any ideas on how to do this to make it easier?
Sorry this is so long, and thank you again! (link)
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Hey.. i'd say do it.. you both seem to be in love with eachother but not ready for marriage.. so try living together for a while and see how it works out.. i'm sure it'll be great if you've never gotten into a fight yet. and if your parents know how deeply in love you are with him, then they shouldn't mind you living with him.. and if they do, just talk to them about it, and it is your life and your an adult now so you can make your own choices.. just make sure that you know what your getting yourself into... alright, hope i helped a little.. bye!
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Alright, I just went to a friend's b-day party and there was ONE guy there.. To me, he's soo hott, and one of the girls there dated him.. And she agrees with me.. But, he says he's gay.. I don't want to believe it, cuz I really think I'm starting to like him.. Wat should I do? He knows I like him, but I can't stop him from being gay, atleast, I don't think so... If u have any advice, I'd appreciate it :-) (link)
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Hey.. he might be gay, or he might just not want to be with you.. i dont mean to sound mean or anything, but it happens sometimes.. talk to some of his friends, or to him about it.. alright bye!
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is it wrong to be so in love that you would die for him? (link)
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Hey.. no it's very normal to feel that way.. but if you are at a young age then dont get tied down, your still young and have a lot of more of experiencing to do in the future.. but don't get obsessive or suicidal if it ended.. alright.. and good luck with this guy =D bye
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ok i wrote this like b4 but i was wondering..
see i have a bf namd chris.. who i love with everything i can love someone with.. ive been with him for 9 months (i knew him for 3 years prior to that) and im still CRAZY about him. I want to be with him forever. I love him so much. and im 15. i would die for him and theres like 3 other ppl i can say that about. i lost my virginity to him bc i wanted to always remember him no matter where in life we went. i think about marring him and having his kids. (not now of course!) and like when i think of him ever moving away i cry! like it upsets me that much! or like if something bad would ever happen to him like say he dies.. i cry! i mean i hear ppl on here talk about love.. but i kno im in love. and with the things with my mom and how she doesnt want me to be with him cause he is black (im white) well it just makes me want to stay with him more and it makes me fall more in love with him! its like i dont care what ANYONE has to say about me and him.. i love him and i cant help it. i would do anything for him! and for me to be 15 and think like this.. well when i told my cousin about it she thought i was dumb and that i shouldnt be tied down like that. but i tried to tell her i dont want to be with no one else besides him! i want to be with him forever. and dont think im some 15 yr old girl thats talkin outta her a$$ here.. i never said this about no one and probally wont for a long long loooooong time. but im dead serious. is it ok for me to feel this way? i just want ur opinions. its not like gonna change the way i feel for him if u guys say no its not normal. but i just want to hear from you all.
thanks a bunch
Manda (link)
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hey, when your parents, or people your close to, tell you that they don't want you to be with this person, it ALWAYS makes you want them more.. i was like this before.. my parents hated the person i was with, and everytime i told them how i wanted to be with him forever, theyd try to bring me down by saying how i deserve better, but that just made me want him more cuz they didn't want me with him.. trust me, it's normal.. ((with me and him it didnt last but that doesn't mean it cant with you and this guy)).. if you love him that much and he loves you, it could mean forever but if it ends you can't just dwell on it.. it does seem like you love him, but don't get obsessive or anything.. alright bye
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