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My name's Katherine. Call me that. Not Katie, or Kathy, or Katrina, or Kathleen. I want to learn to speak Spanish, and I'm studying it now, but I only speak English thus far.
I believe in grammar usage and complete answers. If you need more help, feel free to let me know.
I have had so many problems, so I know how to deal with a lot of shit. I'm mature for my years [14] & am the smartest kid in my grade. I know what I'm talking about.
I like sarcastic people & people with good taste in music and clothes.
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advice

22/f

Guys this is mostly aimed at you but I need EVERYONE’S help on this.
When I was younger like in high school I was the outcast losery dork. No guys would ever give me the time of day. Even when I would try to talk to them. All of a sudden now guys that I did go to school with are coming up to me and wanting to talk with me. Even ones that were bullies to me, are being all nice and flirty. I don’t get it. Can anyone help me with this. Why are guys so confusing like that? is it me? it doesn’t seem like I am different yet they have changed.

I have an older brother & I asked him about this, so this is coming from the mouth of one of your peers-

most guys grow up, simply, in the time between high school and college. They realize that girls are more than just something to hit on, and that they are wonderful companions and enjoyable to spend time with. There's a chance you have become more attractive to them literally, but definatly figuratively, because they've realized what a wonderful person you are.

Also, in high school guys usually travel in packs, like dogs. They like the girls their friends tell them to like and are immature. Once they mature and become more independant, the realize that they don't need people telling them what to do or how to behave anymore.

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13/f
ok well i like this guy...and i was just wondering what guys in general would find most attractive about a girl.
also what are some good flirting tips?
and lastly what are some signs to tell me whether or not a guy likes me?
all help appreciated! thanks!

Hey-I'm not a guy, but I asked some of my guy friends about this question and I think I've got really good answers.
First off, don't be a ditz. Yes, laugh when he's funny, but if he's not, don't make a fool of yourself. Smile at him, but don't stare; it'll make him feel uncomfortable. Big thing is to show you have a brain-engage in joking debates at times or offer to help him in a subject.
When you flirt, make sure all attention is on him...but make sure that he's paying attention to you too. Feel confident about yourself, and don't overuse makeup.
You know a guy likes you when you catch him staring and smiling, not starting and drooling. If he stops you in halls to talk or usually starts the conversation, he probably likes you.
If he compliments you or joins your clubs and activities, he's definatly interested in you,

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Can people give me advice how to talk to her like give me an example convo

like

you:
girl:

cause when people say talk about anything or classes i dont know what to say. Can anyone hel[p me with long term conversations that like go on for about 5-10 minutes then she wants to keep talking but we have to go.

I'm a girl, so I have this problem with guys-remember, the girl's just as nervous as you are, so stick with lighthearted subjects that are easy to add to. Ask her how her family is, and tell her about yours.
Don't ask her 'what's new' or 'what's up' because she's likely to say nothing. Talk to her about your classes-make fun of teachers or assignments. If you make her laugh, she'll want to hang around you more.
One of the best conversation starters is to ask how her day is/was-she's more likely to give a complex answer, and then ask how yours was. Relax, smile, and you'll hit it off, I promise.

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okay, my boyfriend is in JROTC, and he invited me to the military ball, but i'm not really comfy wearing like the dressydresses you have to wear to go to those, im VERY modest, and also, hes shorter than me, so i wouldnt be able to wear heels, what should i wear? any ideas? i cant tell him i dont want to go because i dont want to dress up because he's really excited that i'm going and i couldnt do that to him. i need HELPPPPPPPP!


greattlyyy appriciatedddd

Despite being uncomfortable, you're going to have to wear a dressy dress-it's considered rude if you don't.
Check out http://www.prompartydress.com/ for ideas, and if you can't afford that, go to local vintage stores or even buy online. If you can't wear high heels, you should probably wear kitten-heels...you can't wear flats or sandals. Don't put your hair up high on your head, and you won't look that much taller.
For the dresses, go don't go for something with sequins or glitter-try a simple dress in a color you like, with minor emblishments. Make sure it's not made of nylon or a lot of lyrca, and hopefull you'll feel comfortable.
Have fun!

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i really like this guy. and we started talking a lot towards the end of 9th grade.. and like over the summer we talked and texted.. and one night we even stayed up till 2 in the morning talking online. we talked for four hours. and now 10th grade has started and we kind of haven't talked very much. i mean we texted for a little once... and i talked to him online like once... but that's it. i feel like he lost interest in talking to me. and like i want to reach out and keep talking to him but i don't want him to think of me as bothering him. he never reaches out to me... so should i just stop?

Usually, when guys go back to school and they're with their friends every day, taking to girls isn't as much fun as it was when it was one-on-one. He probably hasn't lost interest in you, especially if you were so close, but don't try to start up a conversation. Instead, when you see him in the halls or in a class, smile and maybe even say "hello," but don't try to make him talk then. Maybe ask him [or text him] when he's not in school if he's alright, but don't push it. Let him get back into the swing of your relationship/friendship.

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