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Apparently, my girlfriend did something that if she tells me what it was, I'll actually leave her.
I'm a very tolerant, and patient person. I'm very concerned about what she did, but I'm not going to push her to tell me. I am, however, pushing that we do couple counseling soon, so that we can be a better couple.
Point is, how would I tell if she cheated on me? (link)
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Ok well I don't think that there is a fool proof way to tell if she cheated. There are signs: her pulling away from you, not being where she is supposed to be, private phone calls, things like that. All of those things could mean something bad or could just be coincidence.
Obviously there are some communication issues in your relationship. Just because she has a secret doesn't mean that she is cheating or it has anything to do with your relationship.
I suggest that you tell its time to fess up, if she didn't want to tell you, she would have never mentioned it in the first place. Tell her that you wanna know and don't make any promises that you won't leave. You don't know how you feel about it. But if you all are gonna stay together you will need to be honest. The counseling is a good idea, I hope it works for you.
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Okay so I been talking to this really cute guy, I'm really starting to like him. Like his really nice and we talk on the phone like all the time, but the problem is I guess you can say his been know to be a player and none of my friends want me to go out with him, but he I asked him if we were to date will he cheat on me or anything and he said "No, because I know how much im really starting to hurt girls who really like me when I do that." thats what he told me plus my parents know his parents pretty good so I don't know if he'll do anything like that, but now also I guess his the kind of guy that you have t watch out on him trying to make " the moves" on you, but I know how to handle my self. So do you think I should give this guy a chance and see how it goes? And if that's a yes, how do I tell my friend's that im going out with him? XOXO, someone [: (link)
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I think that if you do proceed with this relationship, then you should do so with your eyes wide open. You already know that he has a reputation and you already know that you will be getting flack from your friends. So there are the cons to this, but you need to be thinking about the pros also. I believe that people can change, now whether he can or not, I can't say. You sound like a smart girl that already knows all the bad about him and still like him. So yes, maybe give him the chance, but be totally prepared for heartache should it come to that. That is the only way to be involved in a relationship, even if you knew nothing about the guy before hand. Good luck to you.
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