about

hey, i'm mandie but umm..this is my advice column (obviously) and don't feel stupid to ask ANYTHING b/c i'll never know who you are unless you sign your name *cough* jack *cough* haha..!

A little MORE about me: ((ehh..don't get TOO excited!))
name: mandie michelle funk
age: 15
sex: female
location: texas
birthday: april 11
relationships: confused beyond reasoning
hair: dirty blonde?
eyes: blue or green
height: 5'4"
occupation: student @ jersey village hs
hobbies: tan, jet ski, sing, dance, listen to music.
things that rock my socks: emo music, jordan, guys, TRISTAN

advice

okay say if you knew someone that had troubles or is in a different situation that most people or live withs someone different than your normal family, would that be harder for you to have a relationship with that person or to care for him. what would it take for say like you to really care for a person with a different life or a different home situation?

i don't really get your question, you worded it funny. but i think its all about you, how do ou view things? do you pity them, envy them, love them..it just depends on your outlook and i think it'd be easy to care for them, unless they absolutly hate you because you have a better life or family. hope i helped. :)

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dear mandie

i rarely ever get a girlfriend and i dont know why? i have had some hardships in my life but things are looking normal again. ive met some some awsome people that i felt like i was supposed to be with for the rest of my life with and that just seemed perfect through my eyes. when i look at me i see that i can do just about anything and go through anything and still have a smile on my face. i think no one has gotten to know the real me which isnt just funny or smart but all sorts of things. will there ever be some one who cares about me because they know the real me and not just one side?

i think there is a person for everyone...but the thing is that you've gotta be open and willing to except people. like yourself, alot of people have those problems and think they are more than thier looks, being funny, being smart..all sorts of things. but i beleive when the time is right you'll find that one person you're meant to be with and who can accept you for you! hope i helped. :)

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okay. i have this boyfriend. that ive known since the 7th grade n im going to 10th now. n weve dated once before for liek 3 months n then it didnt really work cause we were both young n (oh i forgot to say he lives like three hours away from me) we both couldnt drive so the only way i couldve seen him is when i went to my grnadmas but i couldnt go for the longest time so ya. n then i went to my grandmas for my spring break in 8th grade n we went out while i was up there n then we broke up again cause we still knew it just couldnt work we were bn stubborn n crap like we knew we liked each otehr so damn much but itd be so fuckign hard to have a relationship n then one day he calls me n we talked for lik 5 or 6 hours catching up on everything n then it got brought up both us going back out n i told him id think bout it n then the next day i went to my grandmas hosue n saw him i knew that we were gonan do anything n everythi nto try n make this work so i said yes. n im so happy i actually kinda think i love this boy but now i miss him sooooo much n i wanan see him but iono when ill be able to cause he is busy wth football n im busy with dance so its hard. n he drives but his car is broke rigth now so ya.. i guess what im tryi nto get to is what do you think i should do?.. i like him ALOT! but doyou think its worth it. with me bn in only 10th grade. n him in 11th. so ya think i should keep going out with him??

--thanks

yes, you've definently earned this one! you should talk on the phone like ALOT and send each other emails and talk online and stuff b/c you will get to know him SO much better if you arn't influenced by the attraction? haha. but every moment you guys share together will mean more to you and you'll definently love him more. keep up whatever you are doing and the seeing each other part..just learn to LOVE your grandma and find any excuse to go there. hope i helped some.. :)

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hey mandie, i've got a tini tiny problem on my hands..theres this girl who is really awesome, and we've had our run at things a few times..but how do i know when i should just quit the shit and move on to [hopefully] better things or just stick it out?..i mean its seems like theres still chemistry there..sometimes..but when it seems like there isnt..its like literally like NOTHING there..iuno, but i def need some help from ya manders..

have a nice day and thanks mandie

anonymous [..of course]

okay anonymous, well first off those moments when ya'll have NOTHING is not good at all. it depends on how many NOTHING moments you have compared to how many chemistry moments you guys have. to get over her, just don't give into her when you have chemistry moments. keep an open mind about things and options open on other people. don't close yourself off from other girls who you could possibly have a relationship with. hope i helped. :)

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Hey Mandie. I've just recently realized that I am in love with my best friend. Don't worry, I'm a guy and she's a girl. I've all of a sudden become crazy about her and I don't know what to do. She has a boyfriend, but according to her, things aren't too serious, and they are going nowhere. I want to be with her, but I don't want to ruin our friendship, but even if things didn't work, I don't think it would hurt. I don't exactly know how to tell her how I feel or get her to like me, what should I do? She also won't take me seriously if I do, so how do I show her I'm for real?

um. you mentioned you wouldn't really be hurt if you didn't get her..thats good because everything is pretty 50 - 50 these days. but...tell her you are serious and keep on pursisting that you are and she will finally realize it. if her and her boyfriend arn't going anywhere...why are they still together? possibly she is saying that because she doesn't want to hurt you, but hopefully she isn't. just keep it real with her and keep telling her the truth and one day it'll all pay off. hope i helped a little. :)

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Is it ok to get married right after high school?

if you are ready, then it should be okay if both o you agree on it. parents approval helps. :)

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im a girl and im a lezbin. Will u have sex with me?

um. no. i'm pretty satisfied with what i've got right now...and i'm not a lez, so have fun..being..one? um. later.

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what do you do if the guy you like says he dosen't like you in a girlfriend way but you think he has to a little bit?

sorry if it's confusing i just don't know how to put it.

well, usually guys lie to you because they are afraid to get rejected or they really arn't lying. for this situation i'd leave him alone and if he trys and talks to you alot and wonders whats up with you and why you haven't been talking to him in a while...i guess he mite care about you. if he tells you he doesn't like you in the girlfriend way accept it and at least be his friend. the more he gets to know you, the more he will get comfortable and get those "feelings" of more than a friendship. hope i helped. :)

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ok, theres this guy that i used to like a lot at the beginning of the year. and we almost went out. but then i found out he liked my bestfriend. so he wasnt going to ask me out cause his heart wasnt fully with me. i got really hurt and didnt talk to him for forever. b/c he was telling everyone he was going to ask me out, but didnt. now im starting to talk to him again, and hes being all flirty with me, and acting like he likes me. but hes like that with a lotta girls. i dont know if i should try to make things work out betweent us. or just leave them alone. cause i dont wanna get hurt again. what should i do?

um. okay, i would try to not work things up. ITS SUMMER TIME! you're gonna meet new guys and it sounds like he is pretty player-ish. i wouldn't try to get too involved but try to get his retrospect ont he whole situation. hope i helped. :)

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ok hi so i just started talking to this guy and hes is nice but i hear he talks to alot of girls all at one time so he could be talking to me AND someone else too..so how do i know who he likes?!

ask him. talk around and ask about him to your friends and people in your classes. sometimes they can be players but sometimes they can actually like you. i hope i helped. :)

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when do you know if you should get over someone or not?

um..when that person becomes completly annoying. when they become old to you. nothing is special with that person. you have no jokes. you've never said hi to them. you've said a few words here and there but nothing that ever made an impact to THEM. when things don't work out and it been a while. hope i helped. :) (these are just few of many..)

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OH MY GOD MANDIE I NEED HELP there is this girl i'm trying to hook up with and she acts like she likes me..sometimes..it's like the second i start flirting back she just blows me off like "o shit, you like me?, okay just making sure bye" she doesnt say that, but she might as well shit

hm, well..stop liking her. she is obviously a person who LOVES it when people want her and chase after her and give attention. so, confront her and ASK her if she likes you or not. other than that, there isn't alot. just ask her if she likes you and if she doen't don't waste your time on her. there are better girls who will treat you better and not like a piece of meat. hope i helped somewhat. :)

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Theres this irl at my school and i really like her and i wanna make a move but all this bad stuff has been happening to her,and i dont want to make her think im trying to take advantage of her in her "weakend" condition.What should i do?

just let her know that you are there for her and build up a relationship. be honest with her also, tell her how you feel..girls will find it akward but then talk to you the next day and you'll feel SO much better knowing that she knows..any move after that until the 'hook up' is up to her. she may like you back or may rebel against it b/c her life is 'so' terrible. hope i helped. :) lemme know how it goes.

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wow ok so there is this guy rite well ok i met him like 2 weeks ago n like i started kinda crushing on him n wut no n like last weekend we hung out ALOT. well we ended up kissing. ok well there is this other guy that ive kinda had a thing with for like a while but i didnt tell the 1st guy bout him. well the 1st guy....like the day after we kissed i found out he has a g/f. i dont think they were together at the time though. but that like really bummed me out. n so guy # 2 dosent no bout guy #1 lol. so guy #2 is supposed to ask me out sometime soon n i dont no wut to say. i mean i like him n everything but like guy #1 really like made me question how much. like i dont wanna go out with him if i have feelings for someone else but then at the same time i have liked him for a while. so iuno.....PLZ help me!!
*torn*

well thats not that hard. guy #1 led you on so he sounds if-y. but guy #2...he sound good. if you like him and he likes you why wouldn't it work? be honest with him and tell him there --> WAS

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im in love with this girl, and i know that because i felt this way since i met her. i pestered her for a long time trying to hook up with her and its been a while since i asked her out, but i want to ask her again, but how do i ask her without making things weird

well, everytime you asked her..was she hesitant and uninterested? what makes you think its changed? talked to her about becoming something but don't emply you want it to be that way. use lines like "so lets say we had gone out for a year..." and wait for a response. then say something like "what would you want for a anniversary?" but don't make it obvious. haha. just don't ask her out yet, find out if shes even interested. okay, hope i helped. :)

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hi mandie well i kinda of have a problem well apparently since im writing on here. well the thing is that i like this guy and ive liked him for a while now like 2 weeks and so yeah... well i started talking to this other guy last week and he's always like oh your beautful blah blah blah well it turns out that he likes me and i told him i kinda like him a little too when he told me so yeah theres one problem [liking 2 guys and stuff]. the other problem is that the guy that likes me and he knows i like him a little my friend likes him alot and i would never be able to go out with him if he asked cause i love my friend too much to ever hurt her. what should i do?? should i make myself stop liking him?? and just move on to the other guy i like?? thanks.

hm. you seem familiar. but here is the thing, even tho you are worried about your friends and all, true friends will forgive you! they should already respect and love you for all your decisions and be there when you fall. i don't realy get your wording. i'm ReALLY confused. you like this one guy alot, and another guy a little? but they both like you? but your other friend likes the guy you like a litte? that situation is easy. haha. go out with the guy you like alot and who likes you back and then let the guy you like a little take care of your friend. two for one special and you can make it happen. hope i helped a little. :)

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you helped so much. but, updation here.. the first guy.. its over. we are absolutely just friends. and i think it sucks. and the other guy, just doesnt want it i guess. i tried talking to both. and im just a stupid friend. i can deal with it though.. if you have any advice pleasse help me..

hmmmm..here is the fun part. when you are talking to guys and everything UNDERSTAND what they are saying, don't ask "what?" or "sorry, huh?" all the time because it shows lack of interest. don't play dumb, even tho most girls think its cute...its not. at least not to most guys (i'd know b/c i've asked like millions about it). give intelligent responses and not "iuno" or "can you repeast that again". dress, oh geez. even tho you feel sexy..doesn't mean you don't look trshy. you can wear a skirt and look attractive and nice without showing your package to EVERYONE. and you can wear nice shirts cut low, tight or whatever..WITHOUT LOOKING TRASHY! those are just a few starters on how to get you a man..or at least find someone remotly interested. sorry that you are "just a friend" it sucks..i know. i'm a friend to about all my guy friends..and that would be because i'm too friendly-like i guess. oh well, i know it sucks but its only for a little while. hope i helped again! :)

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ugh.. i feel, so lonly right now. ive always wanted to be one of those people who dont need a guy beside them. and for the most part, i really think i am. but what do you do if you really want one? ------ theres been this guy.. and i guess hes liked me off and on but ive liked him ALOT for awhile now, but after much consideration, crying and convinceing myself to like other guys.. i can actually say that we are just friends. although if he ever wanted to make it more id jump on it in a heartbeat. yea, im still working on that. and theres this other guy that i really dont know very well but i just know that, if we had the chance, we could make each other sooo happy. but.. he doesnt see it. i mean i havent talked to him about it, but its just obvious. he doesnt think of me like that. ugh please tell me what to do. what to think. what to feel.

ready and willing to completely give up.

i can't tell you how to feel first off. feeling is something this advice column lacks. it sounds to me like people are seeing you more as a friend type. possibly because you haven't gone out with alot of people? possibly you haven't had a boyfriend in a long time? possibly you haven't done anything with a guy in a long time? well, i'm not sure of the situation but here is my first bit of advice. TALK TO THE GUYS. both of them, ask them if you have a chance of being with them. even though guys don't act like it, they will like you. just because a guy isn't all over you or isn't obsessed doesn't mean hes not into it. TALK TALK TALK TALK TALK. communication is really important. but here we go, when he responds re-post to me and ask me more advice and give me his response and i sware i'll help. hope i helped for now.... :)

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Hey Mandie! okay well theres this boy and we made out alot and he has liked me for a while but all the sudden he likes this other girl... and i never really liked him but im getting jelous of this other girl now and i dont know why! and i know i dont like him but i dont know why im getting jeleous of her so yah give me some advice plzzz! and ill love you more than i already do lol!

um. well..just don't worry about it. tell yourself that hes nothing to you and sooner or later you'll believe it. it doesn't feel good to be jealous but you just gotta be the bigger person and ignore it. um, deep down i think you really do like this guy..or else you wouldn't be jealous, or else he means something to you and you don't really like the girl he likes. i don't know your situation but just keep telling yourself hes an idiot that he isn't liking you anymore! two for one special. boost your confidence AND get over him! :) hope i helped some.

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i have been talking to this guy for a while and hes cute and he wants to hang out but i think it will be wierd what should i do

what? did you met him online? if so, NO! but if you talk to him in person..then why not? it'll be like talking with him but for a longer time and having more fun. but if you met him online, no! no! no! unless you talk to him but your friend knows him. iuno..you get what i mean right? awesome! hope i helped. :)

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