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Q: Two boys who are close friends both were hitting on me, but one asked me out and I said yes... and I don't know if I should have, and I'm having second thoughts that if I would've waited I might have had a chance with the other, and I might have been happier with him... should I tell the guy I'm with now that I don't know if I made the right decision? Or should I just go with it and forget that the other guy is even an option anymore?

Personally, you already made a commitment to one of them. thinking that it could be better with someone else rarely ends well,the best thing for you to really is to just forget the other guy is an option and stay with the one you have now. Dont think 'what if' a life lived with regret is not a life worth living., hope i helped

Q: 19/f

So a lot of people that know me think that I'm a player or a tease, but they really don't know what I'm going through. My problem is, is that whenever things are going good with the guy I'm dating, I seem to always find something wrong with them that really annoys me and eventually I stop talking to them. Then I just move on to a different guy and the same thing happens. . I don't know what's wrong with me?!?

I did get out of a relationship, but that was like 7 months ago. My ex has already moved on and starting dating other girls. Things didn't end very well with him and me, we fought a lot and the situation was just bad. Long story short I still had feelings for him but he couldn't stand the fighting.

I just wanna know, could that be the reason I tend to push guys away when things are getting good???? Do I need to wait longer before I date again?!? What should I do!? Am I just a Tease?
Thanks in advance :)

Usually waiting for feelings to completely dissipate is what you should do. Its rarely a good idea to go out with another guy when you still have feelings for an ex because then their simply a rebound. The problem with some rebounds is when you start to have feelings for them and get confused and whether its good anymore. Being broken up with can dent trust and make you afraid of committed relationships. That might be why you question guys when things start getting good. But the thing is with a rebound to get over that rebound you might get another and so on. And then you seem just like a tease. You need to take a break. Just try to keep your mind on something else that DOESN'T involve relationships. Wait until there really is a guy that seems one of a kind. There seriously is no rush just try to keep it cool for awhile.

Q: Hello... I'm having boy troubles. I have a boyfriend and his bestfriend [who is a girl] likes him too. He is always hanging out with her more than with me. Should i ask him if he likes her or would that damage our relationship? Pleases help

Sincerely,
?LoVeStUcK?

Ask him ONCE. Believe me when i say this, do not pester him over and over about this. You should ask him if it really does bother you. It won't damage your relationship if your truthful and straight forward about how you feel. Ask him about it, tell him you feel a little insecure but you just want a truthful answer. Then its just about trust after that. Understand although she's his friend your the one he kisses and holds and says he loves and wants to be with. If he wanted to be with her, he would be with her. You just ahve to trust him, if you dont learn that, it will kill what you ahve with him

Q: my boyfrend and i have been together for like 3 months now and have not kissed yet
weve talked about it but i never know when the
'moment is right'
and how do u start a kiss?
dont give me any websites because that doesnt help me.
i really just dont know
help?

Well as most of the other advice its all natural but a good thing to do for a first kiss is keep your eyes open so you don't slip up and miss or bonk heads. A good thing to do might be to place your hand on his cheek

1. its a nice gesture
and
2. it helps keep him still incase he does something stupid and moves the wrong way

Q: I could go through this whole story, but I wont so I'll try to make this short.. by the way, 16/f

So I went out with this guy. And, everything seemed perfect. He always said how he never wanted to lose me and how much he loved me. He was always afraid he would lose me. I also loved him soo much. And we had always said if for some odd reason we broke up, we would always be friends. But one night, he broke up with me. He said he didnt feel a connection. Of course I was upset about it for a few days, but I was happy we would still be friends. We talked for a little while after that, but then he started getting weird. He changed, and completely shut me out of his life. Its been since this past January, and Im still in love with him, barely making it through each passing day, trying to find a way to get him back, even just as a friend. He wasnt just my boyfriend, he was my best friend, whom I told everything to. He was the only one that understood me.. His best friend keeps telling me not to give up, but every time it seems like we are going to get back to normal, he just breaks my heart again and again. Ive tried to give up on him, but I cant. I think its because I dont want to, even though hes literally killing me. At this point, I dont know what to do. Ive been getting a few of my close friends' opinions, his best friend's opinion, and his cousin's opinion. And I just dont know what to do.. Please help..

--S0methingM0re

Well i'm going through something pretty similar but i have gotten alot of advice from various friends so maybe it'll help.

A common antidote to this type of thing is usually just time. It hurts but if you take each day in stride and try to just ignore your feelings they eventually fade, Granted it doesn't sound like the healthiest advice but its something that works over time. Just try to block out all those memories you had with him or if you're a stronger person than I try to remember them as good memories but nothing more.

Another thing thats not really ethical but sometimes helpful is a rebound. I have a friend who got over a guy like that when she went out with another guy who was just simply better for her. Now she couldn't careless about her ex and is completely convinced she's found her soul mate, again. Although other times a rebound can also help you realize that what people say is true and that there really are a lot of more fish in the sea and if this one guy can't take the time to take into consideration YOUR feelings and not just his own then he's really not worth the chase.

If this guy really was your best friend just because he wanted to be with you then he was just a really good boyfriend not a best friend. The only thing that would have proved that is if he had come through after the break up and apparently he didn't. The best thing to do though is to just forget about love altogether. Keep yourself busy with work, school, friends, and such. Try anything to keep your mind off of him. After awhile you'll realize that your feelings have indeed faded and your ready to move on.

Hope i helped and good luck.