about

I am an easy person to get along with. I also enjoy giving advice, and I am pretty good at it. I tend to have a bit of a gift for giving advice. So if you need help then feel free to ask..The one thing about me though is i will not "sugar coat" anything if you want to know then you need to accept whatever answer I may give you. Hmmmm..some things you may want to know about me?
-I'm 17 years old,female. No, because of the obvious reasons..I will not release my name, or my state I live in.
-I absolutely love little kids, and animals.
-I am in a really serious relationship
-I have had a lot of experiences and I am very wide ranged..for advice giving I mean. I have had a tough past, and can answer alot.
Thanks for listening

advice

i been dating this person over a month now and the person is 15 and i am 17 about to turn 18 in a month is that a bad thing because everybody say it is jail bait something like that.

it is jail bait..most dont care unless you have sex. however..there is risk so be very careful.

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15/f.

I like this boy, we'll call him.. Ed. Okay, well Ed was dating this girl just recently, well I was on a bus coming home from a friends and I was thinkg about him. Thinking whether I should give up or not, I get home to see him online and it just says his name without the -love ya tamra. They broke up.

Well my uncle is dying from cancer :( and well he seen it in my msn name.. (please god save him ; uncle dave:((yn)(L)) and he put as his p/m.. hope your uncle gets better sara. No one else did this or anything about it. We flirt constantly and we have a class together at school.

He's like 6 months younger then me but I dont care anymore, we're in the same grade and stuff anyways. Well he told me that since his relationships only last to be about 2 weeks or so that he's done with dating.

How can I tell him I like him and that I'd commit to him and not leave him in the space of 2 weeks? What would I do if he just said thanks and then like stopped talking to me? I really like this guy and have for a while.. since second sem. of grade nine.. its not almost second sem. of grade ten.

Thanks in advance and any advice is apprectiated:]

first of all i had a cousin who died of cancer. so Godbless you, and I really hope your uncle gets better. and for your problem you need to just talk to him and basically tell him what you told me up there^

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ok well i've known this guy for a year now. We met through his twin sister who reads some fanfics i write and post up. well i think this is gonna be two questions but she asked me to talk to her brother did she think i was rite for him? and I really do like him and he likes me we said it to each other. Well he's turning 16 in april and i'm turning 15 in july i don't think he minds my age. he lives in flordia and i live in Texas and like i know that next year when my dad hopefully gets back from iraq we're suppose to go to Flordia to disney and they don't live far if brought along a friend do you think i could meet him? I really like him. oh one more thing heh i've never had a bf before not cause i'm ugly it's because i've wanted to date the right guy suppose well not just any guy i guess so what do you think?

this is very risky..you do not know this guy in real life and you are young..just think about it this way..if you bring a friend you are both young..whats she gonna do to help you if he is a rapist..or worse a 40yr old physco pedifile..sorry if i scared you but face the facts.

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OK I am a 17 year old male senior and, there is this junior girl that I have known for close to two years now that I clicked with from the first time I met her. I've always had feelings for her but at that time I had a girlfriend but now I am single and my feelings for her have not gone away. My friends say that she will say yes and then again I got some friends that say she will say no way. She seems to like me and she wants to hang out with me but her parents wont let her which ruins my idea of having a one to one chat with her over dinner. My exgirlfriend who I am trying to stay friends with will start bawling if I talk to her at lunch by ourselves. How should I go about telling her how I feel and what should I do about my fear of being rejected by her.

if you really like this girl you need to talk to her maybe call her or write a note or pull her aside..maybe consider is it worth hurting your x and getting with this girl? if so pull her aside in school. as for your feelings think of how happy you will be if she says yes. good luck

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me and my bf have been dating for 3 months today! and i love him... i really do! and he loves me too! we pretty much been each others first for everything! first real love you know? and well we talked about having sex tomorrow and i really want to but i want peoples oppinions! i'm 14 and he is 16 but we are both fish in highschool!

also how much does it bleed when a boy "pops your cherry"?!

wow..
1-you are kinda young to be doing that...
2-you have not been dating long
3-if you are asking for our opinion whether you should give your most precious thing to a guy then you are not ready
4-last but not least just remember if you do you may never get it back to give to your husband someday.

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When you get asked out on a date or asked to go out with someone... how would you say 'yes'?

Would it be like 'yeah sure' or what?

you can either be casual and say "yes" or "sure" or "i guess" or you can be excited,polite and say "i would love to" or "it would be an honor" or "it would be my pleasure" your choice depends on your feelings and your personality. just say what comes to your heart

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Okay, if you are going somewhere with a guy that you think that you really might like, and they try to kiss you but your not ready for that, what can you do, or even say, to not kiss them, but make them want the kiss that much more?

Confused.

try something like ..okay i like you, but i am not sure if i like you that much..prove to me that i should kiss you. that would be sassy,sweet,to the point, and teasing.

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my bf is serously sweet but like @ partys and stuff we spend every second 2gether and i dont know how to tell him i just wanna dance with my friends and have a good time. without him thinking i dont like him or dont want to be with him. how can i be with my friends and tell him to be with his?

oo yikes well he is just trying to show he likes you alot..just tell him gently that you really like him but that you need some time to dance with your friends,suggest he does the same. that you two should be able to be close but still spend time with friends, and dance with friends. he will be fine if he is a nice guy. if not ditch him

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ok, here's the deal. there's this guy i have a pretty big crush on, he's about three years older than me and he most likely has no clue i exist. how do i get him to notice me?

first of all do not change who you are, be yourself, talk to him, try flirting a little,and see what happens from there..if you are really bold ask him out

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13/f
I only like the guys that like me. I'm intimidated the guys that I really do like and I feel like he'll never like me. So whenever a guy likes me first I feel braver. I end up liking the guy that liked me first.
Am I just desperate? I know that I don't have to worry about if he likes me, so I just want to be with him, even if I really don't like him. Am I desperate for a boyfriend?

you may just be tricking youself into it because you are too afraid to be bold and like someone else and hope they like you. try to be more bold. but no you are not alone a lot of girls do this.

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Ok soo my best friend has two hot relatives. One..is a year younger and the other is 2 years older. Well i like the one 2 years older than me..he goes to college..and plays baseball for college. Its soo attractive to me. Like..i basically want to run over to him and just makeout! This is the first guy ive ever like..had these feelings for. Its not like "love" feelings more like i jsut wanna makeout with him. I dont like him..i jsut wanna makeout. Is this weird? cuz this feeling sure is weird

no it just means instead of "liking" him or having "puppy love" or even thinking your in love..then you are lusting after him. meaning you dont want to get to know him or date him you just want to fool around with him. theres a big difference bewtween lust/love. you have lust.

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Im 16/F and ive never been kissed. I'm not a loser..i have a lot of guy and girl friends but i just have never made out with anyone. Is this bad?

No it does not make you a loser. But it might not hurt to try and settle down and find a guy. Then at your own pace you two can kiss, then makeout. Just only if you want to. It just seems like you do..you know cause you asked us the question.

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well my very first love and i broke up about a month ago. We still talk. He already has a new girlfriend. Wich hurts me terribly. But for the whole time we werent together, i told myself i wanted to be with him, and i need him to be complete. But then i looked back and i realized things werent all that great with him, ( thats why we broke up it was a mutual thing).But when i first met him i think thats when i fell in love and i couldnt fall out of love. So now i told myself to be honest with myself, that i love him but dont really want to be with him. So im trying to suport his relationship. But i feel like im still in denile. Like i really do want to be with him but am just trying to make myself feel better bye saying i dont. Im so cunfused. Help?

if you are in denial try to wait it out, although it you aren't afraid you can try to talk to him privately

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WHat if your ex bf keeps on trying to listen to your conversation? what does that tell you?????????????????? PlEASE HELP ME>>>>

it could be that he is jealous, and trying to be nosy and see who might get what he had. or that he wants you back and is trying to figure if you want him

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first of all. im 14/f

i've dated this boy billy for about 5 months. && we broke up about a week ago. and a few days ago i started dateing this boy john. well the problem is, my bestfriend liked john and she supposidly doesn't anymore because i do. she doesn't seem to care about it but now EVERYBODY hates me b/c of it. what should i do?

well honestly i would of recommended not dating a best friends crush or x..it always turns out kinda messy. but as of now..I am not sure what to tell you to do..but I don't want to lie..soo I would say talk to your best friend, and get her to tell people not to hate you..besides its between you two.

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omg i had a dream last night that I was having sex with my soccer coach. he is 30, really tall and not extremely handsome but cute in a big guy sort of way. I don't have a crush on him or anything, but i know he likes me (as a person/soccer player!) because i'm pretty good, but why would i have a dream about us having sex!? it was totally weird i need some advice pronto!

maybe he reminds your body of another guy you like, or maybe he is just the last guy you saw before bed that night. dont worry dreams are interperitve (sp?) lol cant spell right now..anyhow so it prob. will not come true.

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I was really living the life! Queen of the whole 1st year high schoolers was never hard to get used to. I was the most popularest girl in the whole grade, but only because I was head cheerleader, and ofcourse like every fairytale I had the star player on the football team, the most popularest, cutest guy in the whole grade, as MY boyfriend! Life could not get better! My dad had a great job so I was what you would call "Filthy Rich", and lived in a huge house!
Then one day my very rich dad lost his very "rich paying" job. We moved into a room in an apartment room, and I had to quit the cheer squad because we could not even pay the $80 fee. Then after that the roomer got around that I was now poor, and my boyfriend dumped me, which meant my popularity went buh-bye! Soon after that, my daddy got a call from his job asking for him back, so we got our house back and I re-joined the cheer swuad and the roomer went around and my ex-boyfriend asked me out. I said to him we can try. So I am going out with him on the Tuesday after X-mas, and I'm going to see if he really likes me or my popularity! But this guy is SOOOO cute, popular, and romantic! Should I dump him or take back my role, i mean after all, he is the MAJOR CRUSH of the whole grade and he likes ME out of 56 other girls! What should I do?

umm there are 2 options but first you follow which girl fits you:

Girl 1-wants a real boyfriend to like her,maybe even love her
Solution-FORGET HIM find someone who likes you for you

Girl 2- Wants to date the hot,popular guy just because..and doesnt care what happend
Solution-Go get him and be a ditz

sorry girl2 is the type of girl i do not like.

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ok well im 14 and have never been kissed, i have had 3 seriuos boyfriend's and 2 just becuz boyfriend's and none of them have kissed me.i dont know if im ugly or what but now no guy likes me and i dont know what to do...can you help?oh yah and i guess im supposed to say im a girl.

sorry just wait for the right guy to come along. your still kinda young..especially to have supposely had serious boyfriends..you must not know the term..sorry i dont "sugar coat"

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14/m
right iv been goin out with my girlfreind for 9 weeks now and its been amazing i can chat to her about anything weve never had an argument or anything its mad i ring her every nite and we talk for hours i see her nearly every day is this normal lol!! its crazy is it love or am i jus geting everything muddled up. i really am crazy about her is it normal lol?? advice would be great thanx:)

100% normal and 100% adorable. No need to worry, but I just wonder..have you told her how you feel? just a question cause a lot of girls love hearing that.

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My friend, she grew up havin a hard life... and so did her boyfriend, but his was really bad with an abusive father who was really bad. and know her boyfriend is like pshyco. I love my friend to death, and her and this boy have been going out for 8 months or more now and shes so in love with him. The other night she came over and she told us a story. He beat her up, threatened to kill her, and told her to get in a cage and she said no so he started beating her up. shes only 14, same with him. Im scared to death for her, but i know she loves him. He's been sent away to soo many places to try and fix him, but none work. Does anybody know any advice to try and help him.. Iknow when hes not in one of his pshyco stages his a really big sweat heart.. but what if someday something more happens, and he really hurts her/ or worse.

this is a really tough situation..the best advice I can give is that she needs to go away for a while. She is only endangering herself at the moment. Even if the kid is nice, its not good to let him get away with that..because he will only get worse. Her best bet is to refer someone on his case, and then tell him (with supervision case he freaks) that she loves him and is doing it to help him and will be waiting for him. But she absolutely cannot subject herself to the terrible harm..I know this case very well I have had a very similar experience but the guy did different things, and by the way something horrible happened and we are no longer together..at all. GOOD LUCK

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