I worked in a casino for over 17 years dealing to people from all over the world and learned a lot about human nature, also, it was interesting to see the hand of fate (lucky or unlucky)in action.
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okay im not sure how this site really works but i need advice... im a seventeen year old guy and my girlfriend is sixteen. shes super into cheerleading, shes done it basically her whole life and is on the varisty squad and this super intense competetitve squad. well they had a competiton last week and i guess it was a pretty huge deal and her stunt group (shes the girl in the air) messed up or something and she broke her leg... yeah so they didnt place too hot. i took her home from the hospital later but she was sobbing the entire time and i didnt know what to say or do and i tried to compare it to losing a big game in football anddd breaking my leg all in one day but even then i still didnt know what to say so i just took her to get ice cream haha and she just cried and cried and i felt horrible. shes been depressed ever since. she cant cheer (and its basically her life) and she feels guilty cause she thinks its all her fault they didnt place well and shes super stressed because she wants to cheer in college and make a nation team but recovering from a broken leg takes a long time and so shes got a huge disadvantage because she cant train or improve or anything. shes just so bummed all the time and i dont know how to help her... i wanna give her space but i also just want to make her feel okay but nohting i say will help so what can i do??? (link)
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You sound like a very sweet guy with a lot of heart who wants to help. As great as cheerleading is it sounds like it has defined who she is completely for a long time and she can not see WHO she is without it. Maybe try and explain that now a new set of challenges has come to her aid to help her define who she is without the cheerleading for a while... as hard as that might be for her to hear, some people believe that everything happens for a reason. Cheerleading has a short shelf life in the big scheme of things and after that there needs to be some substance inside, too. Tell her about the good things you see in her besides being a popular cheerleader, plus it sounds a little superficial, but I am sure she has other great qualities, she just needs to cultivate them. This is not to huge a thing to overcome. Telher she should be thanking God that she is not paralyzed or worse, she will heal...some people never get out of the wheelchair or their depression. Maybe direct he towards a little couseling along with the therapy whe'll need after her cast is off. Good luck sweetie, you sound like an ideal boyfriend and a good friend to her , too. Good luck.
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Husband wants me to get a 3some together me him and another girl. we've been married 4 months. I have experianced this before and have kissed girls when really drunk. He knows I like to look at girls and love to watch porn with him. I dont know if this makes me bi or just loves the woman body. I kinda do want that 3some he askes for but in a way dont want to share our bedroom love life with someone else. Is this a normal thing a guy wants or do you think he is not happy with JUST me and my body. I am 29 180lbs and 5'7 he is 6'2 272 and 36 yrs old. (link)
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Believe me, nothing destroys a relationship quicker than involving another person. Everyone has fantasies about everything sexual, it is normal. But pressuring anyone is off limits and feeling like you have to live up to someone's ideal is a burden you don't need , although we've all felt them. I think a lot of modern women these days can easily get turned on over other women sexually especially when watching porn and stuff, totally normal. You have been married only four months, you have a whole life together, there is time to make these decisions but be very careful, things get complicated very fast and hurt feelings and misunderstandings are the norm. You or he may feel different afterwards particularly if you are partying, so be careful and define some part of your relationship that is sacred and untouchable and be very honest about what really excites you and what you'll do just to make him happy, and stand your ground. Don't give it all away in the first few months of marriage , it is like blowing your wad after 2 minutes, savor some excitement and leave him wanting more. Don't be a doormat, be confident and alluring and let him know that you are a prize. Now go be the prize and star defining yourself sexually, don't worry about titles or names (bisexual)just relax and enjoy.
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