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Q: i have a really hard time trusting guys, let alone anyone. i can never tell if a guy is truly interested in me or just using me. i've like my good friend for about 4 years now, without telling him because i don't know if he just wants me for sex.

Reasons he might actually care:
-everytime i ask him about a guy or say something about a guy he will basically diss on the guy and be like oh my god he's ugly or he's not for you.
-when i'm sad, he can always tell.
-he always thinks i don't tell him EVERYTHING about me. he always says "why dont you tell me anything anymore!?"
-every time i see him and either one of us is about to leave, he'll give me a hug
-he always flirts with me when i see him
-he always texts me first
-he's the ONLY guy i trust

Reasons he just wants sex:
-last year he would try getting down my pants but i wouldn't let him because i wasnt ready, but he doesnt try that anymore!
-he will randomly text me saying "wannna fuck" or saying something and then be like "i'll just fuck you;)"
-he's felt me up before, but i liked it:)

i mean, he's never told me i'm hot, cute, beautiful or anything like that so i don't know how he feels! and when he says like "wannna fuck" i'll reply back like hell yeah:)! so he knows i'd have sex with him so its kind of like me saying that its okay for him to say that to me. we've never done anything though! not even kissed. he texts me that, but he doesnt act on it. i have a feeling if i did have sex with him i wouldn't regret it because hes the only guy ive trusted, ive known him for so long and i feel like he genuinely cares about me, but then i have those doubts...

what do you think?

hmm.. well alot of guys thats all they want is sex. so i understand were your coming from. you said you have been friends for 4 years now, maybe he does like you. and the sex thing comes along with any relationship if you guys really love eachother or are comfortable. maybe him saying all that and trying to touch you and put his hands in your pants is his way of seeing how you are with guys. like maybe if you just let him put his hands he would be like nah i dont want her she probably does that to every guys or will let anyone get in her pants. guys have a funny way of looking at things. his texts are probably his way of flirting and messing around trying to see if your even the least bit interested in him. or what you want with him. i think if you like this guy you should tell him. life is short! so live it up. if he likes you back hell tell you also. and the thing about the sex i dont think you will ever know unless you like flat out ask him. dont beat around the bush or try to give him hints. guys are kinda retarded when it comes to those. they want you to just be flat out honest and open with him. no matter how it comes out. for example you can be like, "hey i really like you but some of the things you do makes me feel like maybe you might like me too., but sometimes you have me feeling like you just want sex. how do you feel about all this?" do you understand what im saying.. well i hope i at least in some way kinda helped sorry this is so long! =] goodluck!
xoxo
megan

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