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Q: im CC ( bi female) and me and my girlfriend want to kiss but we are debating who should start/ initiate the kiss and we are going back and forth saying "you do it" and "no you do it" so who should go first....

Girlfriend...
or CC....
both just start it doesnt matter most people never think about it before they kiss they just go for it

Q: 14/f Ok, well i like this guy who rides my bus but he dosen't know i exsist. Recently, this girl that got her drivers liscence has been taking him to school and taking him home so i dont get to talk to him ever, and he is 2 years older than me so he isn't in any of my classes. Occasionaly he will ride the bus but it would seem weird to just be like "hey! whats up?" If i told anyone that i like him and he found out he might not like me or want to date me because i am a freshman and he is a junior. I never see him in school hardly ever...what should i do?
a fun way to play it, do something really out there and make him notice you. then just keep flirting and play hard to get, then start talking to him aafter like a week of it. ive done it altho like everybody notices me, ive began talking to a guy, who now really likes me but im just not ating him. idk whyy tho :/ . orrr your could be normal like everyone else and start it up with an awkward conversation. my ways funner. lol hope i helped ya.

Q: 15/f

ok so there these two guys L and D. theyre best friends. so errm i like L alot. i've liked him for over one year now. i've never really talked to either of them because of some issues i've had with one other friend and it's complicated but i know that L likes/d me back (just trust me on this) and that D might like me as well.
so the problem is that L always makes me a bit sad and he's always ignoring me when i try to smile. but then, when i dont look he always looks like he's completely in love (my friends told me)
or when i ignore him, i still see that his looking at me when hes walking by mme or smth.
so i've ignored him a lot lately and he looked at me alot. so i think i mad ehim feel bad. and now hes hanging out with this other girl alot and i also saw him smiling at her once. i know theyre like best friends and i've never had a problem with him talking to girls, but now im starting to think he likes HER. but only since yesterday because they where sitting next t eachother cuddeling a bit :(
and i like him so much. he slike this hard to get guy, dresses quite emo and really sexy.
but im never too happy when i see him and always scared to look. and he always playes "games" with me by looking and then being pissed because i didnt look back and ignores me. and he often just wants to be cool. the good thing is that i can tell that tho.
he's really complicated and also drinks and smokes and is often a bit mean to his friend D.
for some reason al that turns me on :(
and there is his friend D. he's like the sweetest guy i've ever seen. and i always get a smile on my face when i see him. i know he's really nice to everyone.
i wish i could just like HIM because i know he'd be perfect, but for some reason im attracted to L and everytime i wanna get over him i think : "what if something could happen between us after all"
it's shiiiit.
please help me. and dont tell me L is a playa because he's actually not playing with me as in he doesnt really like me.
but he's 16 and never had a gf.
the sad thing is im JUST like L. how he ignores you and acts pissed then loving, to you, i always do that to other guys. ive never had an actual "bf" so im lovesick, its how most lovesick people get. i fall for any guy then i remember how much this one guy who was my best friend made my life hell because we liked eachother. so i think every guy is like that, i start flirting with a guy then i act mad at him then end up cuddling with him and talk soooo much then usually cuss him out when i leave and never see him again. this all reminds me especially of last night. in every possible way except put me in L's position and the guy i was with in yours, he was 16 im 14, he liked me. i say hes just like me an emo messed up kid in a lovesickend world, altho im not emo, just start talkin to him even if he ignores you say awwww please talky to me, ina cute lil voice lol. i say hes just like me i end up hating every guy i see and start to love within the day. but he is not a player at all. he will be the sweetest guy you meet if you get to really know him. just tell me to redo it if you dont get it, im really outa it right now. i hope i helped

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You only get the chance to live once so take advantage of it! i have a pretty hard life but im getting through it day by day yet struggling. im going in to highschool next year, with none of my friends and the teachers already hate me. I am bipolar but it has only taught me to be stronger. All people can make your life hell you just have to fight back. i used to be suicideal, but iv found the light i still have many hard times but i get threw them nicely i have ways to take my mind off life n not think about things. im recovered and feel so accomplished. i hate doctors im running from them, i deny to being suicideal their testing me alot but i gradually stopped without them putting me on depression meds so why cant they stop. iv ben on alot of meds tho but not certain kinds thank goodness aha. tho Ive helped many friends through very hard times that I had experience in.Ive saved a few of my best friends from suicide which is the best thing ever to save the people you love from thse thing that screwed you over, although some are still struggling. Im here to help anybody.I love dying my hair its my personality and its not the browns and blondes. Im up for anything, I am a fighter but I never really do it physically. The people you love die helpless and most have never done anything to help fix the cause of their death. Ive been a cutter but ive realized how much it hurt me and other people and I gradually stopped :) great accomplishment. I am a very artsie girl. I love to paint canvasses and pictures and draw whatever. Id be gone without my skateboard and guitar. When you dont really know me people call me a poser I tell them to fck off, I wear and act how I want while their following eachother like robots I have the time of my life. Once you get to know me youd realize im anything but a poser or hypocrite and the people who call others it I guess thats all they do for a living. I end up in the middle of all the drama which I hate so much I say what I think and stick to it. Im in for the ride of a life time. im in love with the gothic culture and clothes altho i still dont think im gothic although I wear black daily. Love me of hate me, if you hate me join the club, I dont really care what people think of me what im doing is right. im going tryout to cheer for football next year since they wont let me play im doing it to scare the shit out of everyone ill change the whole meaning of a cheerleader. il try out an hope i get on, i get along with almost anyone just depends if ur a bitch to me. i do what i believe in and i dont let anybody or nothing get in my way. what i live for "do what you love be who you want learn from mistakes and then die loved" ive been through so much by now the worst thing ever is im loosing all my relatives one by one and im starting to loose it. I hate breakups so its better to be extremely close and be loved than be close be loved then broken again. ive been heartbroken to many times :( and I cant trust any guy their all the same kind of jerk, except if their just a friend. I have been through almost everything possible, which is wayyy to much.Im not just your average girl at all. I dont know anybody like me and would rather be unique anyways. im talkative when im in the mood, when im pissed my friends cheer me up alot but its all in my head from there, where they cant help. i love my friends idk what to do without them idk what will happen this year on my way to a lonely highschoool. i type alot, i noticed, il edit alot out later. buh byee

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