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Hey guys =D here's my question.. there's this girl @ my school, we're pretty good friends. A couple of days ago, she told me she liked me in a more then friends type of way. Problem is i'm a girl & i don't swing that way. I want to tell her that i'm not attracted to her in that way, but i don't know how to do that without hurting her feelings... any ideas would be great! thanks!

Tell her that your sorry but your not lesbian and that you cannot change for her. Tell her that you'd love to still have a relationship as friends but that you cant be anything other than that.

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I am 13, and I am going back out with my X Boyfriend, I'll call him Alex. Now, In our past Alex and I have went out two times. The first time we went out, everything was perfect. I thought I ment my true love. And he was in love with me, and I was in love with him. Then one night Alex and I went out to a hockey game. Amazing nigh, i had the best time ever. I thought nothing else could go wrong. After we both went home, I got on the computer and he said something mean to my best friend, Leah. And I asked him why he said that, and he started flipping out on me, saying that everything he does is wrong, he never does anything write. And he started cursing at me. Calling me things, then he said why don't you find somebody else thats better than me. And I told him, there is NOBODY that is better than you, I love you Alex. Then he said that again, took me out of his profile and put an away message up. He came back about 10 minutes later, and said he was so sorry he didn't mean anything he said. I was so mad, I didn't know what to do. I wanted to say I was sorry too, but i couldn't, I told him I don't want to take his crap anymore. And his only excuse was, ''I only had one girlfriend before, give me a break.'' And then I was so mad that he broke up with me, I went out with my other X-boyfriend Josh. (that same day). And Josh and I went to a football game the day after everything happened. And I really didn't like Josh, I just wanted to go out with somebody to make me happy, and try to get over Alex. And when I was going out with Josh, I was still loving Alex the whole time. Then at the football game, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed Alex, after seeing him there and everything, I couldn't help it but to remember everything that we had. So at the football game i broke up with Josh and went back out with Alex. We lasted about 2 weeks (at the most) and he broke up with me, because he said that he couldn't stop thinking about me going out with Josh. And then about two months after that happened, he went out with somebody else named Ali. And when they were going out, i was so mad. I couldn't help thinking about what we used to have the first time we went out. And while they were going out Alex and I started talking again, being close friends again. And I started loving him more and more every day. And one day he was so mad, and he wouldn't tell me why. He said ''I only need one thing to make me smile in this world''. And i was thinking about it all night, he wouldn't tell me what that one thing he needed to smile was. And I thought that it was me, the way he said it. Because then he said, ''Why do you want to know, you wont be able to give it to me anyways'' And then I told him that i still love him, and I need him so bad. A couple days after that, he told me that that one thing he needs was me. He said he never stopped liking me. I couldn't beleave it. And now were going back out again. For the third time. I acutally think this time is going to work, and he tells me he loves me soo much, and everything else like that. And I beleave him. And that's what he told me the first time we went out. And I wanna beleave him, but I keep thinking about what he told me the first time. And im scared he's going to get me to love him again more and more, then break up with me again. What do you think I should do? Beleave him or not? XoXo **AmberO**

First of all. If it didn't work out the two times before, what makes you think its going to work now? He over-reacts way too much. I understand that he loves you and that you love him. If he gets all pissed off that you asked him why he insulted your friend then you obviously dont want to be around that type of person. I say tell him to back off. He blew it the first and second time. Why should you believe him now?

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Okay,I'm goin out with this guy.And im starting to get sick of him pickin on me insted of loving me.Like the other day at a game he was like hittin my leg,i know hes just kidding.But its getting on my nerves..

Ekuse me? Hitting you. No no. Don't let him take advantage of you. Be strong and tell him that your not playing his stupid games.

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Ok there is this New Guy that has been at my school for like 3 days. And he Sits at my table for lunch, and he also is in my Gym class and my S.S class. And i think he is cute but i don't know if i should tell him or not. Can you guys please tell me if i should your not.

Since he in so many of your classes your fully able to talk to him. Start conversations with him and try to become friends.

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we've gotton together and dated...currently we are best friends...and hes been playing the field (like every typical teen boy)....we hang out and talk non-stop....he still puts his arms around me..hugs me..kisses me on the cheek sometimes..affection is definently there.

i wish we were together.
i love him to death...today he said he loved me..but it was just as friends when we were hanging out.

he doesn't want a relationship right now so i'm not going to tell him how i feel just because i know that is a bad idea.

what in the world do i do-hes incredible and i love him to death?

Hmmm...Lets See. You shouldn't push it. In otherwords, since he dosen't want to go out with you then you should wait until he changes his mind(if he ever does). If you truly love him the way you say you do, then you should be happy that at least you guys are really close friends.
I hope I helped you.

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Im 14 and i broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago. His best friend likes me alot and we went out before but broke up because i had to move but i moved back here again. An i like him extreamly alot also!! But my x boyfriend likes me sooo much and i dont like him and he knows that... So shuld i go out with his bestfriend even though my x likes me alot.. or shuld i just be single? Please help me =/

Okay, I'll try and make this as simple as possible. If you dont like you ex boyfriend anymore then don't date him again. Simple right? Now onto his best friend.

If you like your ex boyfriends best friend then go out with him. If you like him, and he likes you back then obviously you guys should go out again.

I hope I helped you out,

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