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I have a serious problem. I went to my cousin's hometown to stay a weekend with her about 2 months ago. It was fun and i met tons of new people...including two special guys, the centers of my problem. It was a while, and i was communicating with the both of them, and I took a special liking to one of them, as did he to me. We were pretty good except for the fact he just broke up with his girlfriend the day he met me. He said he wanted 2 give it some time to blow over before we would date. So, i gave it time, and waited,and waited,and waited. I thought he was worth the wait, but i eventually got sick of waiting, and conversation became dry between us. This all made me lose some interest, but I still liked him,despite not communicating. Eventually his best friend started talking to me more and more, my innitial thought was that it meant nothing, but supposively he liked me as well. We stayed up for two whole weeks talking on instant messanger every night until around 3 a.m. I grew a liking to him, he was such a sweetie! He then admitted how he felt about me, and i could'nt resist but say the same back. We eventually clicked and i forgot about his best friend, well, kind of. I felt as though the 1st guy had no interest in me, since he showed none at all. Now it was a constant thing with me and the 2nd guy flirting and having fun together, and not to mention, talking NON STOP for hours at a time. He then asked me to be his girlfriend two nights ago, and it was perfect! He was perfect, i had everything going for me, until the first guy came back into the picture. The first guy then admitted his hidden feelings of how much he liked me to my cousin, and how he now hated me for dating his best friend.My cousin then called me and explained this all and how i should rethink it all, now knowing he felt that way too. I am so confused! The first guy blocked me on instant messanger until last night when he unblocked me so i could explain. He didnt have much to say, but he didn't believe a word I said. It was then and there where i realized i like him still, more than my own boyfriend(his best friend)!Now I am not sure what to do, break up with his best friend for his benefit?Stay with this perfect,sweet guy?Get them both out of my system?I HAVE NO CLUE!!! I like them both, maybe the first guy a little more...what should I do? (link)
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Well, first dont brake up with your boyfriend for the other guy's sake. He sounded really mad so he probably wont take you back, at least not easily.
The reason you think you like the first guy more now is because you want what you cant have. Its human nature - your boyfriend looses value the second you get him. So wait it out a while before making a decision you might regret.
As for washing your hands of this whole mess - its up to you. How attatched are you to these guys? If you wanted to just leave this all behind you it sounds like it would be relatively easy because all contact is through the internet and you dont have to see them often if at all.
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this boy, he lives so far away, i only see him 3 times a year. winter break, a week in the summer, and spring break. well, this sunday im gnna see him for spring break. his family and my family are both going, and, were gonna be swimmin all day, and then its like fancy dinners at nights. and, i like him so much. how do i make him see this? without saying anything that has the word "like" or love in it. like i cant say "i like sombody" because i dont want to be that direct, i just want to hint it to him because he might have a girlfriend, and i dont want to look like an idiot. also, how can i flirt without being to direct? usually, i just smile a lot, and the boy will get it, but this boy isnt so much of a flirt. also, hes 14, almost 15, and im 13, almost 14, and so hes older, and thinks of me like younger. how can i show him that im a big girl? it helps that im taller then him, but just by a little. and he said "woah, are you wearing makeup?!" when i was. is this good that he noticed? because im such a girly girl, i wear makeup everywhere and im not going to stop for him, i just want to know if its a good thing or not. okay, thank you to anybody who took the time to read this, i know its obnoxiously long.
xoxo,
MMEE!!! (link)
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first you should find out if he has a gf - cause you just need to move on if he does
also - this is going to be really hard because you almost never see him, so it would be impossible to have a relationship. since it sounds like wat you want is for him to be your bf, i think u shouldnt get your hopes up and try to find someone nearer to your location
but to directly answer your question about flirting and getting him to think of you as older, first dont worry about the makeup thing, but maybe try to make it look more natural. wear low cut tops or short skirts. think of interesting things to say, this generally will get him more interested than "flirting". the most important thing is to NOT act like your trying too hard...thats whats going to make him think of you as younger or older. its better if at the beggining of the visit u seem attractiv and interesting, but not neccesarly interested in him. that gives him time to get interested in you. then towards the end of his visit flirt obviously, maybe even make a move, so he knows your interested too.
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