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me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time and we are sexually active. we recently have stop doing it. last month we did it and before he would ejaculate he would take it out and ejaculate on my stamach. i got brown\ pinkish discharge but it was mostly blood (kind of heavy)and i have no idea what it is. could i have the chance of being pregnent? ( i am very stress out also for the last month)i dont know if it was my period or not and i've never felt in symstoms ( vomiting etc)im freak out because i have white discharge but i haven't recieve my period this past february. i am very scared of getting pregnant. me and him already talk about this but he is not sure what to do. can you give me an info of what happens before pregnancy? is this natural for my menstruation or its just irregular?

first of all - the "pulling out" method is the worst method you could use. there is a thing called "pre cum" which comes out of the penis even before ejaculation and could cause you to become pregnant. so let this be a lesson to you. as for the other issue. you are not pregnant. some girls, after the first few months up to the first year of initially having intercourse, have their periods like that. Its usually because your body is getting used to having a foreign material - ie condoms - inside of your body. so dont worry, but dont use this method ever again while having sex unless you are on birth control and both you and your partner have been tested for HIV

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Im a girl, and im 16 years old. okay, a few months ago, i did stuff with this guy called Bryan. We did stuff several times at different parties. Hed be nice to me on the night, but after that, like at school and stuff, hed just kinda ignore me. but it wasnt so bad, hed speak on msn. sometimes i wondered if he was using me, so i tried talking to him about it, and he told me it was fine and he wasnt using me. But i feel used. WE havent done anything in a while as hes starting being a dick to me, and more ignorant than ever. he also started trying it on with other girls. but it still really hurts. My friends say i was being used. It feels horrible, how he just dropped me like that. And now i think i like bryan, and cant stop thinking about him. even though i know its a waste of time, but i just wish he liked me, and i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but he either ignores me, or convinces me that IM wrong. He doesnt even seem to like me, even as just a friend, and always blanks me. Ive done nothing wrong...but basically he just doesnt care about my feelings and doesnt wanna know about anything to do with me.
i dont understand why im so different from anyone else. Im not jelous, im just hurt. He used to be so nice to me, and now hes evil to me. He talks to everyone else apart from me, and hes rude to my face and insulting, behind my back. Please help!

i hate to say it, but it sounds like this guy was using you! It sounds like he wasnt very nice and that once he got what he wanted out of you, he stopped taking interest. What i would do is warn these other girls hes talking to, they shouldn't have to go through the same thing you are. As for the tension between you two, the only advice i can give is to confront him, ask him flat out whats going on, other than that it feels as though you've tried everything.

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i have to get my boyfriend a bday gift by monday, any suggestions? ive already given him enough gift certificates, so im trying to think of something easy to get, in the price range of around 20 dollars, and maybe a little creative? he watches a ton of movies, plays soccer, loves poker, if any of that helps. got any ideas? i really appreciate it...

have you thought of doing something with him rather than buying him a gift? guys in general would like to spend time with their gf more than being handed a picture frame of them. why dont you try something he likes on his birthday. Buy him a new soccerball and ask if he wants to play one on one with you, or rent a bunch of his favorite movies and spend some quality time.

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So I have this great boyfriend. He is really cute and really nice and every girl is just dying to meet him. But the only bad thing is that he acts so clingy sometimes. I went on vacation and he called my cell phone and left 12 messages saying "Hey babe...I miss you..Are you okay...call me..please..i love you more than my own life." And thats typical of him. He says that kind of stuff alot on the phone and computer.

But then at school he acts all jumpy and weird around me and sometimes I will walk right by him and say Hi and he will totally not hear me at all.

And if this might have anything to do with it, he wants to hang out with this girl who he always says he hates. And he invites me to hang out as a threesome and I think it's a little weird. I thought maybe he was going to break up with me, but no, he is even more clingy-er now!

What does this mean?

it could mean alot of things. first of all, i think the boy is nervous. very very nervous. also, i think at the same time he is scared of losing you! if youre worried about him being too clingy, just talk to him. You cant have a good relationship with someone if your communication skills aren't good. He's your boyfriend and this is a two way relationship, if hes as good a guy as you say he is, he'll understand.

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