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Ash Velvin; 19, meditator, born && raised in Virginia; sweet, enthusiastic, optimistic. :'D

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I ama girl from Bangladesh. I am 17 yrs old n my bf is 25. We love each other like everything. I was in an abusive relationship the for 1.5 yrs n he helped me get out of it. Now we r together for the last 5 months. We know each other for about 2 yrs now. My present bf is jst perfect. N i love him. He treats me like a princess and plays wid me like a doll. He has a stable job n is too handsome. Bt d prob strts whnevr i get angry wid him he hurts himself. He doesnt tell me anything. Whenever i am angry he says sorry even its my fault. Bt it hurts me if he hurts himself 4 me. How can i tell him not to hurt himself?

Hello!! :)

I had gone through a similar situation in one of my previous relationships. Except mine was an emotionally abusive relationship. I would become angry at some of the things he'd do and he'd unfortunately take it out on himself, showing me his self-injuries to make me feel like the bad guy. I didn't do the right thing, because I was just about as mentally ill as he was. I didn't know what to do, so I self-injured myself. (The way our relationship ended is a whole big story that is totally irrelevant.)

If I was as emotionally stable and overcame my mental illness like currently, I would've treated the situation with more compassionate care. If I were you, I would sit him down, take his hand and carefully bring him into a sweet, sympathetic and genuinely loving conversation.

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