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17 years old/female.. so this may be kind of long but, I'll try to give you the briefest version.. so there's this guy, let's call him jay. and so like a month ago me and jay spent a lot of time together, and we ended up making out and such. and like we still talked and everything, and saw eachother on weekends, but nothing seemed to progress from that, like we were just friends, but my friends and including myself thought he was totally into me, since I was like kind of into him. well, we stopped talking for a couple of weeks at the beginning of the summer, so I ended up making out with this other guy, lets call him mike, when I was drunk the one night. it didn't mean anything, just an innocent make out, and I still talk to mike, as friends. well like two weeks after that, I ended up seeing jay at a party, and I starting like him again. and since I drank a little too much, I told his best friend, and his other friends, that I really like him and such. well the next night I threw a party, and he ended up coming with his best friend. and everything was going great, we were flirting like usual, and we ended up outside me and him making out again, and I guess my friend had a bit too much too drink, and came outside, and bluntly stated that I had made out with mike. well jay totally flipped and was like "get the f*** off of me" so I was like got off, but was like what's wrong blah blah blah. and he just got so mad and like wouldn't talk to me, so I started drinking with his best friend, and got a little drunk, so started flirting with his friend cody, just to make him jealous. (yeah I know it's not cool that I used his friend, but his friend was totally into it, so whatever.) so jay just got more mad, so my bestfriend talked to him, and was like whats wrong? and he's like nothing, and she's like well like why'd you get mad? do you like her or something? and he's all like I don't know I'm confused. so I started telling him I hate him and such, while holding onto his friend cody, so he ended up getting so mad, and leaving, and told his friend "to go for the gold" (aka get some action)which is so mean, but I know he was just super mad. and like I'm just totally confused, and it's been a week since this happend, and I have no idea what to do. like do I talk to him? and apologize for being a jerk? or do I wait til I see him, which will probably be on this weekend, and talk to him in person? I just don't know what to do. and does it not seem like he likes me, like if he got that mad just because I kissed again, when we weren;t even dating, let alone talking:S? please help :):) thanks in advance.

eeek, you definitely screwed up hun :(. but like, if you are really into this "jay" guy, then you should definitely talk to him, preferably in person. apologize to him x 1000, and ask him why he got soo mad, hopefully it all works out. explain to him that mike was just a mistake, and you were drunk and it didn't mean anything. and about the cody guy, you should prob explain you were just trying to make Jay jealous, even though he prob knows. well good luck, hope I helped a bit :). keep me updated, I have my fingers crossed:P.
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Alright, well there is this one guy that I've been hanging out with, but basically we're only friends so far. Everyone says that he likes me, and I like him, but I'm not sure about his feelings.

I'm not sure if I should make the first move and ask him out, or wait a little longer and see if he does?

okay, so I think you should not so much ask him out yet, but definitely flirt with him, and totally hint at the fact that you like him, and see how he responds. and if he sends a positive vibe, then maybe it's time you should tell him how you feel, and see where things go from there. good luck :).
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There is this one kid from my school who is going to the same high school as I am and I want to give him a chance there but we kind of had a rough end to our 8th grade year and he really hurt me. I still kind of like him, do you think a relationship in hs is worth it or should i move on?

you should talk to him, and see how he feels on the situation, and if you feel like he has changed and is worthy of your time, then yeah it could be a potentially good Idea to see how things progress with you guys in highschool. if not, then it doesn't hurt to have one extra friend when starting highschool. Remember that there are so many new guys you'll meet in highschool. so it might be a good idea, to hold off on the relatioship thing with this guy, to see if there are any new love interests you meet. good luck with him, and everhting. have fun with it.:)
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well, theres this one guy named James and i have liked him for a while but nothing serious because i barely know him. once i talked to him but it was kind of a while ago. well school is starting and i found out from one my friends that him and i have a class together this year. i'm really excited but how do i get us to start talking?

The easiest way to start talking to him, is to find a mutual friend to either re-introduce you or put in a good word for you. if that's not possible. then the easiest way is to just say hey. or get his email and start chatting with him, and then by school time, you'll atleast know eachother a bit more. But if you can't get his email, and you have to wait til you two have a class together, then find a mutual subject you both can talk about. like "wow, I can't believe we have a test in this class already" or simply try to get a desk as close to him as possible. Start off as friends, and see how things progress from there. try to find out things he's interested so you can have a solid ground to spark up a conversation with him. I hope this helped a little. good luck with everything.
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