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He used to like me alot and I kinda did too until he got annoying to me ((asking questions like if he can come to my house which i told him he cant n he keeps bothering me about it)) but when I told him I liked him, few days later he had a girlfriend. I cant believe I lost him just like that because I didnt give him a chance, please help me get him back to me.

He didnt really have a girlfriend, I just assumed he did I misunderstood.

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i'm 16 years old, almost 17 in about 3 months, and i've never had a real boyfriend or been kissed.
yeah :\
SO. there's this kid i like. and last year in school (sophomore year) we had one class together but i NEVER talked to him. so this year, thankfully, i have a 2nd chance, and we have history together! and even better, i sit RIGHT next to him. problem: i don't know what to say to him. AND i have like no chance to talk to him in that class because my teacher is kind of scary and talks the whole time and gives us notes.

what should i say to him? i'm pretty shy at first, so i have no clue how to start a conversation with him. there's just nothing to really talk about? i was thinking of dropping my pen (i know, lame) and hoping he'd pick it up so i can at least say SOMETHING to him, but i haven't done that yet. also, i think i'm joining ski club, and he does it! so i guess that will be something to talk about. there was a meeting last week, and he was there. so i could say something like ohh i didn't know you did ski club. but... would that be weird? idk, i should stop caring what he will think. but ahh it just seems so weird to randomly say something to him out of nowhere!

ugh plus there's this girl who apparently has a boyfriend in another school, and i always see the guy i like and her together. i think he likes her, but wtff she has a boyfriend. so whatever, i need to step up my game :]

there's also these 2 girls that sit right near where i sit, and sometimes they talk to him, so i guess i'll somehow have to get in their conversations..and yeah i don't know. it just sucks because all we do in that class is sit there in silence and listen to my teacher lecture on anyway. what do i do/ say!?!?

Well from what I've learned,
You can't get him to notice you if you never talk to him.
Try to be near him as much as you can.
Pass a note saying hi, or ask him about what he likes about the class or something.
Or flirt with him. Poke him softly and smile, and say hi.
Ask him if he wants to be friends, you never know until you give it a chance.

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SORRY THIS WILL BE LONG! some of you might know me... as mwalnutss on here (yes there is spose to be 2 s's). but anyways, i need help. i have been dating a boy named bobby for a month and a half. and he means the world to me. and we were UBER close before we started dating. like friends since septemper. and i care about him ALOT! but lately the tables have turned. i made a new friend and i am friends again with my exbff and they take up ALOT of my time on the phone. and bobby has stopped calling me, so since he stopped calling i have REALLY reduced the amount of times i call him down to like 3 times a week instead of racking 10 hours of phone time with him every week. since then me and my best friend, who is a guy, have gotten even closer, we goof off (not in the hooking up way) like we use to but know like its more often. and bobby gets jealous and just ignores me. and then he claims i ditch him, like dont walk him to his classes. but i do!! i put SO much on the line for him. and he makes me cry alot. and feel bad. and ARG!!! i hate it. and he never listens to me. what should i do? dump him?

Question: Do you want to dump him?
Talk to him (like you should always when you got a problem) and ask him why he thinks that. Tell him what you really feel. I mean if you want to make time for both then talk to both of them to let them know.

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