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Hey advice givers, I'm Shyamali. But if you know me you can call me Shy. I love singing and the whole entertainment business. I have naturally black hair but I lightened it to brown. I have brown eyes & I'm about 5"4' & reasonably thin. I'm East Indian & Half Italian. If you want to talk to me then please contact me at Shyamalisings@yahoo.com, not here. I don't want to fill up my advice column with talking to other people. I love to sing and I was born on January 1, back in '87 so my zodiac sign is Pisces. I'm in a relationship right now and I'm excited to get started on my advice column! By the way, I am not Shyamali Malakar. I am a fan of her and her brother-- that's all.

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ok so i have this really big crush on this guy thats in my class, tomorrow is the last day of school and hes moving to another country over the summer, i want to kiss him so bad but it would be awkward, i like him so much but i dont know his phone number and i want him to know that i like him
please help!!!

p.s. im 13, so is he =]

help fast, i need it by tomorrow
thanks in advance

You're not going to know him in 10 years time, and you didn't mention ever talking to him so I wouldn't... that sounds a little boy crazy XDD I think it's absolutely amazing on how many girls come onto this website to find out if a guy likes them back, there's more to life than having a boyfriend, you know! But anyway, you should kiss him if you want to that bad.
You only go around once.
Besides, he's moving to another country...
Do it before it's too late
That way he'll remember you in 10 years time if you don't still keep in touch.
Cherish,
Shyamali

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my bf and i hav been dating for 2weeks but we've only hugged 3 times and talked twice THERES SOMETHING WRONG!!
how do i tell him he needs to at least try without being a bitch?

You don't tell him, you just start talking to him more. Eventually, he'll adapt and take after it. Hopefully he'll feel more open about his opinions or concerns with you and you'll become closer. So to be fair, you have to try, too. The relationship needs to have some feelings come from both sides, not just one. So if you're making all the effort to be around him, you're not being a bitch. And there's no way you can possibily say, "We need to spend more time together" being a bitch, because it's just telling him you want to get to know him better :]
Cherish,
Shyamali

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Okay. Theres this guy that i know. Were friends. he's 20, i'm 15.
About a month ago, I was on my period (I get really boy crazy on my period) and I had this dream where he kissed me, and I kissed him back, and when I woke up, my heart was all pounding and I was all lovey dovey. I guess I kind of liked him a little before that but I never really admitted it to myself, until then, where it all came out.
A couple weeks ago, my friends mom (who notices everything) told me that she thinks he likes me. She didn't really give me a good reason why, so i'm not saying its true, but the possibility really fired me up. So now i'm all crazy inside and thinking about him all the time.

Well I know he's wayy too old for me and even if he wasn't, i dont think im ready to date yet.
How can I get over it? Or just a way to realese all this crush-energy inside me [=

You're 15. He's 20.
The odds of you getting together are very slim, as a 5 year difference would be for most anyone. You have to realize that when you're a teenager and someone you have feelings for is five years older than you, the age difference lies bigger until you're older. He's too old for you is basically what I'm trying to say, and it's illegal for you two to date because of the age difference. Besides, when someone is that far ahead of you (age wise) they're also ahead of you mentally and may expect more from you sexually, mentally, and to make healthier decisions. A 20 year old has had a lot more experience than a 15 year old so he may get annoyed because you're so much younger and at that time, there's such a contrast between personalities etc. and I'm guessing you don't know who you are yet - when he's old enough to be in college! Believe me - he's not going to matter to you later.
Cherish,
Shyamali

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