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Okay, my boyfriend and I had went to wal-mart recently and he saw his ex girlfriend there. She's 14 and I am 17. My boyfriend is 16 (and they dated for about 9 months and broke up cause she cheated on him twice). Anyhow, he didn't speak to her in the store, he just waved. Now I've been nice to where he can still be friends with her like on the phone, but she took things into her own hands. She called him this morning and told him that she loves him and misses him, and that if we don't work out, that she'll still be there waiting for him....anyhow he says to her, "Do you think I am gonna break-up with for you?" And she got quiet... then she says to him "Well would you go back out with me if that happened?" And he says " I don't know..." ( and as my boyfriend is telling me this I'm thinkin to myself...what do you mean?) So then as we were going to our separate high schools, I gave him a kiss and I told him I loved him... and the he goes "I love Rowbyn (that's the ex's name)" And I knew he was doing that to make me mad... but as I was walking him to his school, I remember him saying "I'm gonna feel funny the rest of the day". So I am wondering if yall think he may leave me for her, or does he still have feelings for her. Any advice I am sure would help! THANKS FOR READING!

I think he may be interseted in his ex. You should sit him down seriously and just ask him straight out. If he is interested in her, then you have to let it go. You'll be upset and it's probably going to hurt really bad. I know. Even though you love him, and he says he loves you, he shouldn't be interested in other girls. If he's not then you should tell him that it's real upsetting to you and ask him to talk to her. Trust your gut. Don't trust your heart cuz they can break, your gut is a gift from God...and he'll help you throught it. Even if you don't believe or how bad it may hurt. I hope it works out for you.

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Ok, there's this kid at my school, Drew. We sorta like each other, so on Sat. we had like, this 5 hour long convo, and we just decided to go to the Snowball together. (it's a dance). So anyway, today at school, I was telling my friends Jenny and Nicole (Nicole likes Drew) about it. Jenny was real happy for me, but I noticed Nicole just looked mad. So I just online a little bit ago, and my one friend was talking to her, and IMing me their convo, and turns out, she's real pissed about me going to the dance with Drew and just liking him in the first place, but I can't help it. I heard from Drew that he doesn't even like Nicole the way she does. So I IMed her saying I was sorry if I made her mad, but we both decided to go to the dance together. I told her to stop bein so weird about it cuz it has nothing to do with her. And then she signed off. Idk, I just want your opinion about this. Who's right and wrong here? And I want to go to the dance w/ Drew, but I don't want to upset Nicole either. What should I do?

Well she'll get over it. And if she's jealous then that's her problem. So trust your gut, not your heart, because your gut is a gift from God!

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ok well here is the deal i like this girl named britni she is beautiful and cool. BUt i duno if she likes me people say she likes me as a friend but then when i talk to her friends they say that she just doesn't really know what to do or say about it. now my friends want me to talk to her. and tell her how i feel, but i idunno what to do cause she is always with her friends and i dunno hwo to aproach her wether it be at school. or not ok well all adivce is great.

thnx

monn

Well I'm a girl so trust me on this. You should go anywhere you feel comfortable talking and just tell her, or I was going to ask this guy if he liked me by note but found out before I gave it to him. Either way tell her now or somebody else will snatch her away from you.
!Good Luck!

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