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Q: when a guy says "haha, your retarded" (when hes flirting) what are u suppose to say back? like: yeah, but you so are you :D"?

Well.. alot of guys say that to me.. and what i say is

"So? What are you gonna do about it?"
orrrr
"Oh, and your not..loser" ((that ones always good))

anything along those lines work..

good luck!

Q: 16, female :)

im sooo confused and sort of...hurt..
you see there is this very adorable, sweet, athletic, everything i look for in a guy BUT he has a girlfriend. ive had a thing for him for about 6,7 months now. we hangout occassionally..but never alone..only with my cousins because there good friends with him and thats their neighbor haha. anyways before him and his girlfriend were together we would flirt NONSTOP i mean i loved it haha who wouldnt? this was in the summer and i know that we're both attracted to each other. but he doesnt know i like him. anyways..now that he has a girlfriend of about 6 months soon it makes me so sad to know he loves her and not me.. i mean shes really pretty and i didnt even think they were going to last thing long but there going strong..the thing is everytime that we hangout we still kinda flirt. when im not with him, im thinking about him..like tonight we went to his hockey game..his school played my school and after me my cousins and my friends left and then he texted me a bit after and was like hey what are you guys doing ..wanna go out? and i started smiling. so we all hungout and we went out to eat and my cousin was driving and i was like i get FRONT and hes like ahh nahhh. so we were like at the car and he was like holding me and touching me saying that i couldnt get it and then hes like alright..i'll open the door for you so he opened it for me to get in :) and same on the way home! haha but in the back seat he kept touching my hair and then he was like soo you got any guys you goin for? no boys in your life? and im like nope :( i mean my cousins had to go give their friend something so it was me and him in the car but it was kinda weird..i didnt know what to say! usually i do its weird though. but i cant go through it anymore i hate feeling so sad about him having a girlfriend. i just keep waiting for them to break up or something but then NOPE..6 months later..i can definately see something of us if they were to break up but i just dont know. i try and tell myself to get over him but i love being by him, and then i gave him a hug because i accidently "hurt" him and it was the best feeling. but i cant just give him a hug goodbye because i feel weird. asking for one?! this quote defines me the BEST .. "and even though we'll probably never be together, i refuse to let myself fall for anyone else.." and its true. no guy compares to him. what should i do? even when i dont hangout with him for like 3,4 weeks i STILL think about him and wanting to see him. i dont even know if i'll see him again this break..what do you think i should do? and telling him i like him is something im not going to do because i think he might have the hint but if he doesnt i dont wanna make things awkward. anyways im just so lost its like i like the kid but then i hate him..i wanna get over him and see him as JUST A FRIEND..but then i dont. i think hes just one of those guys that you'll always have a thing for. and the thing is that he only flirts with him i notice..like when its me and other girls and him he wont flirt with them and stuff...i just DONT KNOW?! what should i do

Well I also had almost the same freaking problem! I have loved this boy for a long while and i told him i liked him and he totally stopped being freinds with me. He used to come over my hosue and eveyhthing, but as soon as i told him i liked him he sarted hating me. He has a girlfriend and they are going out on and off. I just moved on. I've like this kid for about 1 and a half years! But, i just forgot about him you know. Now, I think you should try to move on. and if he and his gf ever breakup let him do the first move.
Good luck
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Q: OK, so me *& my crush hugged *&& i heard that you can tell by a hug (i forgot where. hah) if its a friendly hug or "i-like-you" hug hah i dont know how else to put it.

thank you!!! =]

Well i dont see your question... But if what your trying to ask is " How can i tell what kind of hug it was? " kind of thing then.. If it was like a really long hug.. then it was probably an i like you hug, but if it was just a short one then it probably was just a friendly hug. One of my friends ( i call him my big brother ) we hug all the time.. and its just a friendly hug.. but thats my advice for you. ya know if that was your question.
good luck =]

Q: I have a lot of friends. some of them are guys. I have liekd this one boy for sometime now, but i dont want are friendship to end but sometimes it seems he likes me to. If it helps im 13 HELP ME!!

Well, if you really liked him a lot you should find out how he feels. If he lieks you or not. if he does then maybe you should talk to him and aks if you went out would he be mad at not talk to u if you broke up. I know if you went out and you broke up you would become friends again. My friend in highschool shes bestfriends with this one boy and he really likes her but she doesnt wanna go out with him. i think if they went out then broke up they'd become friends. if ur truly that tight you'd get over the break-up
GOOD LUCK!
I'm here for yah!!

Q: Okay, so today this guy I really like, asks me out, and well I said yes. But, for the rest of the day, it was totally awkward and everyone, kept doing stuff, and kept saying stuff to make the situation even more awkward. What are some helpful ways to make things...less awkward?

Well that's kind of how it was when i first started going out with my current boyfriend. You see i sat at his table with him and his buddies but he didnt really talk to me..what you need to do is start the conversation instead of waiting for him to talk to you. Just be like hi what aree you doojg later. and stuff like that. he'll chip in on the talk, and before you know it you wont even have to think about it, he'll start getting more comfortbale talkign to you after a few days. There are going to be times when he may kind of ignore you, but just start talking to him... Hope my advice helps yah lotts.

Q: okay i used to go out with this guy and then he dumped me and he said sorry he was by polar he said he will always love me and im the only one and like 2 monthes later he dumped me and then he said sorry then he asked me back out and i said i will think about it! then he said forget about it like a day later because somebody told him that i thought he was ugly and i never said that and so he doesent want to go out with me and i know he still likes me and the other day i seen him flirting with another girl i still love him he is the perfect guy what should i do to get him back?? i miss him and im sad without him and i know he still likes me and what should i do ?

I know what it is like to love someone and see them flirting with another girl. At my school there is a love triangle and every day someones heart is broken. I suggest that you move on. There are tons of boys out there. And there will be one for you =] 8p

Q: guys are weird.

this one boy, in school.. he always always always looks at me, ALWAYS. & whenever i like sit next to him though, he'll be like oh noo. & junk like that. & i dc because i hate him too.. lol. but its just weird, that hes always looking at me, i dont get why? why does he? any ideaa??

Maybe he likes you but he doesn't know how to show the fact that he does like you, or that he's afraid of what will happen in the future.

Q: So if i havent talked to my x-gf in like a long ass time and then i talk to her and like crap on AIM. I mean i was trying to get my life on track and shit, my grades were slipping, i got into drugs, then like she doesnt know rite. so why do i feel so frggin retarted?

Well,, you got into drugs so what do u think?!!

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